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COLIN PAL  Jedi in training & once upon a time a monk 🙋🏻‍♂ ° Musings, fractals, and fragments through my lens 🧐 °

"I need you to be strong right now" - me to coffee (and me to you too!)

Before I make any big decisions, I close my eyes and sit with myself, uninterrupted, listening to the silence and everything in between.

Listening to the stories and lies I tell to protect myself. I question the truth in my thoughts recognizing that often times I’m scared of my own truth.

Then I remember, as humans, we all share the same vulnerability to pain and hurt. We just judge our insides, which we know intimately, by other people’s outsides, because that is all we can see.

I find the acceptance to own my story, the courage to emerge from stillness, and the compassion to still love myself.

Then I decide with a calm brain and open heart. This is how to go from Compulsion to Choice.

If you truly want to change everything, sit with yourself at least an hour a day. Make it a priority.
You won’t believe how differently you will see the world.

Everything will change. Everything. 📷: @sophieephan
#shotsofstillness #stillnessgame #dailymeditations #mindfulness #stillness #meditationoftheday

Living mindfully doesn't mean it's all happy times ahead. Let's be real here. You're inevitably going to bump heads with challenges.

But with mindfulness, these challenging moments—a dying job or loved one, half your heart walking out the door, an expecting "unexpected" change—become a teaching moment. A collection to your full untold story.

You'll come to trust that everything is happening to deepen your understanding and awakening. Trusting this becomes precious af. It let's you fall ass to floor and gets you back up with an ounce more resilient and confident.

Your consciousness wants to awaken. Your life wants to renew and express itself. Let it.

Let go of that tendency to want to control everything. To incessantly want to prepare for the future and to always have your guard up for what's around the corner.

Can you let it be? Contentment is life living through you. Not you trying to live through life.

Let things be and you'll see on the other side of this is a space of possibility. Where you get to be the creator and not just some survivor.

How I do know? Possibly, a hunch. Possibly, I'm right there stepping into possibilities and I'm inviting you to join.

#meditation #musings #mindfulness #mindfulliving #stillnessgame #stillness

We spend all our time chasing something, looking for something to distract ourselves from the truth that's trying to come out. When we turn inwards and give ourselves permission to feel, to allow the experience there to just be there, we open the doors to whole new world. A universe patiently waiting for us to explore its wonders. That's fuckin magic right there. That's today's morning musing after a green tea latte. 😋

Happy birthday to this little brat! You remind me on the daily to love unconditionally (it's a great way to get free food and attention), to not get so caught up in the chase and to play more often, and to wake up early every morning because discipline is a superpower (and it's fun to wake up people when they don't want to wake up yet).

Sometimes, I give myself permission to do nothing. To unplug, guilt-free.

Skittles approves.

It’s easier to run away to somewhere tropical, to hide behind comfort food, to hit up the alcohol shelf, to have meaningless sex or even to bypass the work of acceptance and tricking yourself to believe you’ve done it.

It’s hard to actually do the work of acceptance. To take a 10,000 foot overview perspective of your life and to explore the possibilities beyond your own limiting beliefs.

Could it be possible that the person that you thought betrayed you and your trust was also betrayed by you?

Could it be possible that at the same time there was betrayal there was also the presence of trust and loyalty?

Truth is, there was. We just don’t see it because we’re caught in a delusion we created that fits into the mold of our values and beliefs. On the other side of the scenario, the other person has also created a delusion that fits into the mold of their values and beliefs. What both sides fail to see is that there can not be betrayal without an equal amount of trust.

Seeing the reality of the truth, speaking the truth, and accepting it is what dissolves the delusion and returns power back to you.

It’s hard work but it’s the price you pay for freedom and power.

#shotsofstillness #stillnessgame #dailymeditations #mindfulness #stillness #meditationoftheday

You don’t have to do anything to prove that.
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You don’t have to have achieved a certificate to hang on your wall, become a CEO of a company, write a NY bestseller, create a viral YouTube video, make six figures a year, be under a certain weight, or look a certain way.
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You still deserve love and happiness.
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You are perfectly imperfect.
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Trust me, I know, because I am too.
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Like me, you share the same desire to be happy and to be loved; and the same vulnerability to change, loss, and uncertainty.
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Like me, you are vulnerable to imperfections and those imperfections take absolutely nothing away from who you are and your worthiness of love.
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Like me, you love others because they see you, hear you, feel you.
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Like me, your capacity to love others is only limited by your capacity to love the person staring back at you in the mirror every morning.
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Like me, you are worthy of love.
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It’s your birthright.
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#shotsofstillness #stillnessgame #dailymeditations #dailymindfulness #meditationoftheday #mindfulness #stillness #love #worthyoflove #valentinesday #worthiness

Mindfulness teaches you to go beyond any feeling of comparison or threat by the success or experience of others. It is easy to start comparing yourself to others when you see them happy and successful.
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When you watch the highlights of other people’s achievements in life on social media, you may reactively think, "this person is so lucky it’s unfair" or "this person got it good, it took so little for them to get to where they are now, whereas I’m working so hard and barely making it".
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When you practice mindfulness and lovingkindness, you see the interconnectedness between them and you, you’ll understand that genuinely being happy for them takes absolutely nothing away from you (or who you are), but instead, it actually brings you your own opportunity to be happy.
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It’s a reminder to stop comparing yourself to other people’s highlight reels and to focus on showing up for yourself here in the moment.
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#shotsofstillness #stillnessgame #dailymeditations #dailymindfulness #meditationoftheday #mindfulness #stillness #happiness #lovingkindness

Letting Go is an art. Where people get it wrong is they think letting go means letting go of the thought or feeling that’s bringing you pain and discomfort in the moment. It’s not.
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Trying to let the feeling or thought go is like trying to get rid of it. It’s an aversion to the unpleasant experience, a habit pattern of our unconscious mind that only brings more pain and suffering to us.
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Any time you get into the work of controlling, you fall into your habitual mind’s trap—the trap of control. To control our emotions and thoughts is an illusion created by our past experiences and habit patterns.
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We’ve been taught to believe we have control:
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Don’t cry
Suck it up
Man up
Chill out
Why can’t you just be happy
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This implies that you can turn your feelings on/off like a light switch. That you have full control over them. You don’t!
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The problem is that the more you try to control them, the more they become a problem. We have a tendency to hold on to thoughts and emotions, self-identifying ourselves with them. We desire and crave certain experiences and try to control situations to get what we want. Or we try to push away the experiences we don’t want through suppression or distractions.
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Letting go here does not mean letting go of the thought or feeling, it’s letting go of our habitual reaction of control.
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It’s seeing the reality of the emotion you feel at the moment, and accepting it for what it is. It’s expanding yourself to make room for it. It’s looking at the emotion with equanimity, neither clinging to or avoiding it.
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You don’t have to like the emotion to accept it. You’re just taking away power it has over you so you can stop struggling with it.
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How do you let go of your unwanted experiences?
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#shotsofstillness #stillnessgame #dailymeditations #dailymindfulness #meditationoftheday #mindfulness #stillness #lettinggo

Sometimes we go up, other times we go down. That vulnerability to change, to loss, and to the pain it carries is something we all share.
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Understanding that, you can open your heart and live your life from a place of lovingkindness. You can use your own pain and the pain of others as a vehicle for connection rather than isolation.
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Thank you for that reminder Grandma and thank you for everything you've done for our family. Now rest. ❤️
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#shotsofstillness #stillnessgame #dailymeditations #dailymindfulness #meditationoftheday #mindfulness #stillness

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