Adult Caption - it’s long & the truth
We have all heard of locker room talk. You know a time and place where men objectify women , starting from her hair down to her stretch marks. You think women don’t objectify men, sure we do. I could be wrong here, but we don’t degrade a man. I get to read the most absurd things on a daily basis and the shock value has no shock anymore. But sometimes you end up in a situation and the wind is knocked out of you and you wonder is it so bad to be a woman. Recently I was part of a locker room talk, men taking each other’s case at my expense, where I had no worth or value. Over watsapp messages , my character questioned & ridiculed.
The first time, I was brought to tears. These men weren’t strangers, they were friends,I hang out with them. And there I was a piece of meat in the conversation. I was like you have wives , mothers , sisters, friends who are women and you spoke about me as if I had no dignity. They did apologise, it was just mere banter they said. Let’s call every insult , lewd statement a mere banter now. In the middle of the night, as I stood on a pavement at Juhu, I wondered is this my punishment for not conforming to society. For being an independent woman , for being open about my sexuality and being on dating apps. Am I being vilified for it, my character questioned only because I didn't let mamma papa force me into getting married to some stranger, because it was time. I openly say I am single, I openly talk about the men in my life, so that means I am open to character assassination.
Even if you are talking about a woman’s breasts, and how big or small they are , do you ever think how demeaning and insulting that is for a woman, that she is nothing more than a pair of tits for you. And don’t give me that bullshit that it’s not all men. Each and every one of you has made some comment on a woman’s body. Don’t be righteous over here . I am not here to change the world and the men in it. But next time just think once , how would you feel if someone objectified your mother, or sister or your wife and then may be just maybe not objectify and trash talk about us . Even if it’s mere banter.