The elf on the shelf. Lately, I’ve been reading post on why people aren’t doing it. I completely respect people’s reasoning, especially for people who don’t tell their kids that Santa is real or for religious reasons. What I have been reading about are moms reposting other people’s reasons and questioning about the story behind it and wether they should do it themselves. The story is that Elf leaves while the kids are fast asleep and reports back to Santa wether the kids are misbehaving or not. I don’t use Our elf in this manner. Firstly, because I don’t instill fear or use threats so that my children can behave good. I don’t use this season for my benefit to make my children behave they way I want them to behave or “Santa won’t be bringing them presents.” I’m also not giving my child the sense that the Elf is spying on them, and that it’s ok for people to spy on him as I’ve seen floating around. We use our Elf as a fun way for Leonardo to wake up and search for him and see the crazy things he’s gotten into in the morning. He has a vivid imagination, and we usually let him make up whatever story he wants to believe. Leonardo thinks that he flies back to the North Pole every night after putting him to bed. He helps the elves make presents and then flies back every morning to come be with him. It’s simple for him, and it’s his favorite. It’s his story the way he believes it to be. It’s also my story in the way that I choose to use the Elf. Remember that there are no rules for the fun things you choose to incorporate into your child’s life. Some may not like the story behind the elf, and that’s ok. But don’t let anyone make the decisions for you as to why you don’t like it. You can take anything and put your own spin on it. It’s your home, your rules. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about it.