The 4th trimester - probably the worst one of them all.
And for me it begun already in the hospital, a short moment after giving birth to my daughter.
After 36h of bone shattering pain from pushing out a almost 10lbs baby vaginally, my vulnerable and debilitated body was neglected the care that it needed from the hospital staff.
I was showed into a corner of a extremely small, cold and old room that I had to share with another woman. I wasn’t given the medication, nor the proper tools to clean my wound and soothe the pain.
I was weak and vulnerable and treated like a cattle animal in one of NYC best hospitals. Quickly in and out, with no emotion and empathy.
Some time after this experience I started seeing the similar behavior within my close circle. I was no longer excused for a behavior that was caused by the pregnancy, whether it was my mood swings, appetite, tiredness or pain. As the baby left my body, so did all the understanding from others. “Its always something with you Yanyah..” and yes it is!
Creating a child, nourishing and giving birth to a child takes such toll on the female body. This is something only another mother can understand.
The physical pain, the emotional confusion, the mental and hormonal challenges that postpartum brings is a part of pregnancy.
But unfortunately we have a healthcare system that are failing our postpartum mothers and who sets the tone to what we as a society deem normal during the 4th trimester. Generic “take it easy for a few weeks” prescriptions are offered verbally until an eventual clearance to “slowly resume normal activity.” This is a part of the larger problem, of complete disregard for what pregnancy does anatomically and physiologically to a woman.
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