3/3 A lot of skinny people I know stay that way because they weren’t forced-fed in childhood. It’s not cemented in their neurological pathways to act this way. So it’s not always willpower as it is a HABIT of eating certain amounts of food. In my family there was a habit of eating and drinking in excess: I still remember not even being able to breathe normally after our summer country house feasts that involved kilos of pork kebabs with potatoes and lots of cherries for dessert. It was pleasant to eat but very uncomfortable to digest. Now attending australian christmas dinners I am amazed by how little people choose to cook compared to those weekend extravaganzas organised by my mother ;)
When I was 18 and decided to slim down from 70 to 55 kg I got used to healthier habits, and they stayed with me for a while, until I gained it all back 5 years later, punishing myself for a certain failure. Depression dictated self-sabotage, so I obeyed. I regret doing that to myself, like I regret acquiring the habit of binge eating when I drink. I knew I was doing something bad to myself, I knew I was destroying all the hard work and will have to do it all again…but I chose to binge anyway, for almost a year. Alcohol helped me numb my common sense while I was doing it. Maybe I wanted my appearance to reflect what was going on inside, idk. I just wanted to be bad and out of control.
The best thing you can do when you hear the voice urging you to get up, go to the cupboard or supermarket is to simply ignore it. It doesn’t sound simple, but it works. The impulse you get is not rationalised by anything, it’s your prefrontal lobe that turns it into a convincing argument why it’s okay to give in. Instead of helping your instincts take control by arguing with them (most likely you will lose), just acknowledge them and choose not to act on it, because you can separate yourself from these ideas that are not your own. You are in control and YOU choose what happens. Going outside, finding food, putting it in your mouth…it’s much harder to do when you’re aware that it is just an instinct, not a real need like what lower brain makes it feel.
Check out the book, it’s super helpful <3