Victim blaming; When the victim of a crime or any wrongful act is held entirely or partially responsible. Victim blaming is not just about avoiding culpability(fault)—it's also about avoiding vulnerability. The more innocent a victim, the more threatening they are. Victims threaten our sense that the world is a safe and moral place, where good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people. When bad things happen to good people, it implies that no one is safe, that no matter how good we are, we too could be vulnerable. The idea that misfortune can be random, striking anyone at any time, is a terrifying thought, so we choose to blame someone even if it is noticeably irrational.
We want to believe that if we don't do what that victim did (ie, drink, walk out at night, talk to their assailant, go to their house) then they won't ever be harmed in that way. As silly as it is its a coping strategy we use sometimes to make ourselves feel safer. Most of the time it's an unconscious act. Other times it's fuelled by misogyny. Not only seen in rape cases, is where people living in poverty are viewed as lazy and unmotivated. The moral of all of this is that we need to stop and think. Who are we hurting when we say "it's your fault", and think morally if what happened to them was okay, and if that ever happened to your friend, sister, Mother, girlfriend, how they would feel🤔🤔🤔 * I don't support what either of them are doing, but more people support Kodak, that's the point*