Societal pressure to snap back after a baby is SO real!
This isn't an instagram-worthy pic, but I'm using it per illustration. I am three weeks post-partum here. George was a month old on Friday.
And yesterday, someone told me that I'm fat. Just like that, while rubbing my still somewhat bloated stomach. "With Lea, you shook off the weight so much faster, but now you're still fat." I wanted to cry.
A) with Lea, I didn't go full-term; b) I stressed all that weight off, having a newborn in NICU and an ill mother; c) I ate sooo much more - mostly jelly teddies or enerjellies with George. Also, I couldn't give a fuck about exercising - I had another baby to run after. And I'm still eating a lot more now.
Why is there this expectation that you must have a thigh-gap and abs straight out of the delivery room? Why can't I just have a few extra kilos and enjoy my portly, MOTHERLY body? I just had a child, for fucksakes.
Yes, I cannot wait to get back to the gym, but I - like many other mothers - had major abdominal surgery and it still hurts to walk certain distances. And fuck it, I am still a little tired.
Let mothers be. Let them lose the weight in their time. Or not at all, if they like. We're only human, after all.