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Some people are pretty intelligent. They will keep hold of you without being fully invested in you, for as long as you can meet their physical, mental or spiritual needs.
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They will give you some hope that something special is there and you will hang on to it, believing that some day, they will be entirely devoted to you. They might respect you to an extent, but they aren’t sure about you. They have curiosities which make them wander away from you at times. This shows in their inconsistent efforts.
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On your good days with them, things are great. They make you feel special, wanted and important to them. When they are feeling low, the need for you increases. They know you will be there for them and support them during the darkness. Yet, this still isn’t enough to be committed to you. When they’re back on a high, they will leave you feeling low this time – as their need for you decreases again.
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You will then go through the cycle again. Each time, you will fall deeper, while they simply buy time to keep you around, without being fully devoted to you. This will make it harder for you to escape, and it will keep you in their sight. They might even tell you to leave, knowing you won't because it’ll be too hard for you.
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I admire these believers. They believe in people who simply just play with their emotions. Not because they are naïve, but because they have a big heart. However, please pay attention to your instincts and remember, patterns speak volumes about someone’s true feelings towards you.
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Sometimes, you have to be brave enough to walk away, knowing that you deserve better. Let that room be occupied by someone who wants to love you all the time, not use you to fill temporary voids.
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Until I really began to grow up, I found it difficult to let go of grudges. When I felt disrespected, I became very vocal, and sometimes, I did things I wasn’t proud of. I would always seek revenge on people to ensure that those that done me wrong, would end up facing the consequences.
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Those who know me extremely well will be aware that even some of those who tried to anonymously direct hate towards me were eventually discovered. Some people might think that’s cool, but it’s not. That whole time I carried hatred in my heart and I invited more negative energy into my life. Instead of creating a brighter future, I was making it duller. This awareness gradually gave me a reality check: I was always fighting a losing battle.
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The aim is always to be happy. So, if something isn’t making you happy, it’s probably taking away your peace of mind – and that just isn’t worth it. That’s why holding a grudge is a destructive act, rather than a constructive one; you take away your happiness.
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Yes, it’s much easier said than done not to take things to heart, or to walk away from negativity. But, on the premise that all energy is reciprocated, it’s always in your best interests. Forgiveness is about protecting your peace of mind, not condoning sh*tty behaviours and giving people the green light to carry on mistreating you.
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Hate is harmful. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people that hurt you. People always forget this because they believe that their behaviours will get excused due to the context of the situation. Nothing goes unnoticed in the Universe; think it of as an automatic system that unsympathetically gives you back exactly what you put out. Make good vibes a lifestyle choice and your life will reflect it.
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Dear world, please scroll across. 🙏🏽❤️
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As young children, we were told we could be anything we wanted to be. However, as we grew up, we were often told to take a more "realistic" approach to life. Suddenly those ideas of becoming the next big movie star or music idol were invalid and pretty much insane. Instead of following our path, many of us are now conforming to society's informal rules or formal bureaucracies.
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We are often told that it's good to be different, that we are all in fact uniquely unalike - yet then we are mocked for being different and manipulated into conformity. We often comprise who we are so we can avoid conflict and get along with others. We want to be secure, accepted and belong. Not be the crazy oddball who dreams an unrealistic dream that they will never manifest.
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Although fitting the norm of society can give a greater sense of security and isn't always a bad life, it is limiting. The ways of others diminish who we are and stop us from living our dreams. We forfeit our real character, our thinking and free will, just to be socially accepted.
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Defeating social oppression is a difficult task. Living life authentically is scary. It can be easy to get lost once you break through the cage that has held you captive for so long. The uncertainty can be terrifying. The freedom can be lonely.
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However, the risk of being yourself and living life on your own terms is more than worth it. By becoming free, you no longer become a slave to an opinion and therefore, you offer yourself unlimited opportunities and possibilities. By becoming individually free, you'll find that you are not distant from the rest, but you are closer than ever, as your energy infects, inspires and impacts the world like you've never imagined.
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Which ones do you struggle with the most? Let me know in the comments. Number 30 is the toughest for me by far!
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All these habits will raise your vibration in one way or another. Practicing these things will help you feel good more often, so please don't overlook them. I will speak more about some of these habits and their relationship to vibration & happiness in my forthcoming book.
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This is a really old list of mine which has made its way around the Internet. Unfortunately, someone went out their way to remove my tag from the picture to ensure I didn't get credit for it. If you do share it, please don't be like them. I put a lot of effort into my posts so I can add value to people's lives and I make no money directly off my posts, ever.
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Nearly everyone is judgemental to an extent. However, in certain communities, you may notice that there are a lot more judgemental opinions. Usually, this is because people are raised that way, and they themselves are constantly measured against others. It becomes the norm, and so, judgemental parents carry on raising judgemental children.
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People are made to feel like they’re flawed by many things, including their shade of skin. Those who are doing the judging are convinced that people who don’t look a certain way are ugly or not quite right because they’ve been made to believe so. They are so comfortable passing off negative opinions because they think that it’s normal and they’re too focused on others, rather than themselves.
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Insecure people make others feel insecure because to judge another person, you must also be constantly judging yourself against others. There’s a lack of self-love in the world, and this forces people to project their insecurities on others as flaws.
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On the Internet, it’s evident that many individuals are putting others down and leaving their negative opinions, without seeing the issue with them. They’re quick to tell others that they should handle "criticism" without reviewing their own actions and upgrading their mindset and attitude. They’re not adding value to anyone’s life, and there’s no positive purpose behind their words. All they are doing is revealing what their own insecure world looks like.
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If you feel unhealthy in any way, it's great to pursue better for yourself. But do not for one minute stop loving and respecting the way you already are. Your body is a gift; so don’t let insecure people make you forget that. You were not created by a God or higher energy with the word "ugly" in mind – we invented that term ourselves when we decided to define what beautiful looks like.
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They tell you to toughen up or learn to take criticism – while they continue their obnoxious behaviour. According to them, the problem is always you. Even when they're wrong, they skip saying sorry and begin to justify their actions. They take your peace of mind and abuse your kind and forgiving heart. You tolerate it all, while it silently breaks you inside.
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You spend more time accompanied by tears than smiles. You devalue yourself as a human being and feel lost in life. You love them, or at least you think you do, but there’s only so much pain your heart can take. Finally, they hit strike three, and there’s no option but to leave this time; for your sanity’s sake.
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With nothing but loneliness, questions arise. Did it end because of you? Could you have done more or anything different? Will anyone ever love you for who you are? Will they ever appreciate everything you do for them? The abuse of the past haunts you, and you simply believe that you’re not good enough. You left their life, but they kept your self-worth. You try to heal, but your mind stays awake to challenge you all through the night.
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But as they say, time heals most things. Eventually, you find yourself again – stronger, wiser and greater than you’ve ever been. You realise that you are not defined by your past, your mistakes and any individual who lacks the capacity to show you the love, you now show yourself.
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You see, that pain and suffering only made you feel lost for a moment – but it's put you on the path to finding yourself forever. And every day, you will make a conscious effort to identify your needs and make sure they are met; by no one else but you.
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The term FoMO is an acronym which means Fear of Missing Out. Apparently, a lot of people get it when they miss out on social events, such as parties. They believe that they are missing out on something great and this can often make them feel a little anxious. In fact, some people get it when they’re scrolling through social media and see posts of exciting events that other people attended.
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Whether you’re deemed rich or poor, and whether you have significant resources or not, greatness requires effort. Serial entrepreneur, marketing expert and author @garyvee has spoken many times about the idea of "luck." He mentions that many of his old high school friends say he is lucky for where he is right now. However, what they don’t understand is that while they were always out partying and trying to get laid, he was grinding and building his empire. The word is almost offensive because of how hard he’s been working.
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Here’s the thing, you have to live for NOW as it’s the only time you ever have. Being in the present moment is important. But don’t let that pull you away from building a great future; for yourself and this world. You must achieve a balance, whereby you happily exist in your life as it happens while investing energy into creating the next moment.
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You can’t have FoMO if you’re using your time productively to create a greater life. Success is never a result of luck – that statement could be interpreted in many ways. You are responsible for the path ahead by the choices you make. Just know that if you choose to stay in and work instead of party, you are not missing out on anything important. There are so many people who have dreams that haven't turned up because they are too busy "turning up" in nightclubs every weekend. Remember, 'dreams don't work unless you do.'
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Something different. Slide across to read my thoughts. It's a bit long but hopefully it will be worth it for you some of you. As always, I've kept it real. It was on this day last year I asked @kaushalbeauty to be my wife 💍
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Photography by @erangatrox
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I was listening to a song called "Proud Family" by @ToryLanez the other day and in the first verse, he explains how he got a girl to open up to him and sleep with him, after initially being rejected. He did this to protect his pride stemming from his Ego. Due to his actions, he affected her reputation and got people saying all kinds of things about her.
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This is quite common, especially amongst young adults. I know several times, people have got someone to trust them, only to get what they want, before taking a swift exit out of their life. This might be considered as having "game" when it’s really just a selfish motive to hurt another person by playing with their emotions.
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I know growing up and only having guys as friends, they’d want to know if you’d "smashed" when talking to a girl. Although some guys blatantly cared about girls, they would lie and say they did to avoid being mocked by their peers. This lie would then spread and give the girl a bad reputation. Our general society has double standards, where often girls get ridiculed, and men get condoned for the same behaviours.
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Sometimes, the guys would be telling the truth, but because they want approval from others, they’d show off about their intimate encounter. Again, this would put a girl who gave up a special part of her to a guy she trusted, in an unpleasant position.
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Small lies and the abuse of trust can make a big difference to how others perceive someone. Some people have killed themselves because of the backlash they’ve received. Please stop spreading false statements, assumptions and things people have trusted you with, just to make yourself feel better. Think about how it might affect the person involved.
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We're living in a generation where lies are the norm due to the hunger for instant gratification. That's a bold statement, I know. Especially for someone on social media and who is engaged to a YouTuber. As much as I love social media, it seems like we are accepting and idolising falseness. Every shot is like a word in a story, and we judge the whole story based on that word.
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For example, the word might be CONFIDENCE and that's all you see, when the sentence might actually be: "She felt her lowest and lost all her confidence when he cheated on her." Or it might be the word KIND, but the sentence might be: "He was kind to everyone, apart from those who didn't benefit him in some way."
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I'm going to keep saying this over, but please don't believe everything you see on social media. If that backfires on myself, that will be my problem - but I mean it. Some of our youth in particular are so misled and it breaks my heart a little when they are working towards these "goals" that don't actually exist. Behind certain smiles and relationships are hatred and hurt.
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We have too many people who are trying to live up to these social media standards and replicate the falseness portrayed, without consciously realising it. If it continues, authenticity will be more rare than it already is.
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No one's life is perfect, despite what you see online. Some people will even use "imperfection" to bulk up their social presence - usually in an attempt to validate themselves based on the love they receive.
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There are a lot of good, loving, positive and genuine people online but just remember, everything you see is a snippet; not the entire truth.
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I want to continue to make positive posts for you but also keep it real. Sometimes, I write these posts as messages to my younger myself. There are things I wish I knew back then, that I know now. Let's not turn fake into the new real.
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You might not be where you want to be, but you’re also not where you used to be. Life is always moving forward. Do you remember that difficult situation you got out of, even though you thought you wouldn’t? Do you remember those problems that you thought you wouldn’t overcome, but you did anyway? I remember those wishes and worries that dominated your mind. They seem so small now, but they weren’t at the time, were they?
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Here’s the thing, most of you are looking at your life right now and focusing on what’s missing or what’s not giving you feelings of pleasure. These things are troubling you, and your mind is exploding them into catastrophic events. As a result, a lot of you are losing faith in the future and becoming impatient.
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People always talk about success through money, businesses, medals, trophies, material possessions, and so on. However, when I look at your life, all I see is success. Time and time again, you’ve achieved what you thought you couldn’t. You’ve triumphed against your challenges, and you’ve manifested the things you’ve desired. Just take a close at your history, and you’ll see what I see.
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So, stop being too hard on yourself and breathe a little. Look at where you’ve succeeded in life and place your focus on everything that you’re blessed with. Your life could be better, but it could also be worse. You’ve got a lot to be thankful for and a lot to enjoy. You also need to remember how great you are. I’m proud of you, and you should be too. Keep it up because you’re inspiring someone out there.
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