Whenever there is a part of Mark I hope he would improve on, habits I wish he would change, or things I want him to start doing, my first action is to always pray. I ask the Lord to move in Mark's heart and help me tell Mark about my thoughts without offending him.
One time, I was starting to be disturbed by Mark's excessive gadget use. He wasn't addicted to computer games anymore but I noticed (about 4 months ago) that he was getting too fond of mobile games. It robbed him a lot of time to do more important things. I prayed about it, asking God for wisdom on how to tell Mark. When Mark came home, he suddenly told me how God has burdened his heart to stop playing mobile games. God impressed everything I prayed for in Mark's heart! I didn't have to say a word!
Another time was when we were worshipping separately. Mark sat with the guys and I with the girls. During worship, God called me to serve in that new church and encouraged me to be more intentional in sharing my life to others. I said, "Lord, if this is what you really want me to do, then Mark has to be in it, too". After worship, Mark approached me and said, "I think God wants us to serve here! I want to serve in this church". Wow o wow o wow. I was so happy!
This happens many times in our marriage. There are times when we have to work hard for our marriage but there are many times when we just have to lay things down and give it to God- He does the work and He is sooo amazing at it! Many times God proved us that when someone is meant to be in your life, God will move to call you to the same place and purpose. God speaks to me about Mark and speaks to Mark about me. I guess this is what it means to have Christ at the center. We're both imperfect, so our marriage is also imperfect. But in the midst of this imperfection, God moves and makes sure we are well guided, loved, protected, and when required... disciplined. 💜 wives, it is VERY IMPORTANT to pray for your husband and marriage. It is the FIRST answer to any marital conflicts or differences. God moves where you can't.