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TheTiffanyTimes / BALI  Forever poking my tongue out 🤪 (sorry mum) Aussie 🇦🇺 travel 🛫 fitness 🤸🏼‍♂️ mental health 🎭 My website 👇🏼

Dimming someone else’s sparkle won’t make yours shine any brighter ✨🤷🏼‍♀️
I’m seriously at a loss how something that is so obvious to me is so beyond some people’s comprehension.
Wearing @showpo 💃🏼 (swipe for back details!)
Location @cityofperth Christmas lights! 🤩

I must be a mermaid 🧜‍♀️ I have no fear of depth and a great fear of shallow living ~ Anias Nin ~ one of my favourite quotes 💙
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This pic was taken by @eyesofanomad at my surprise birthday party in Bali last month. My friends organised this insane villa for the night and the pool was definitely a unique feature! @phinisivillasbali

To the girl who told me that my face looks like it’s been hit by a truck and I need a nose job. To the ones who have told me I am not allowed to express my feelings. To the ones who called me names, mocked me, attacked my character, lifestyle or appearance. To all the trolls who hide behind their keyboard taking out their own insecurities on others; this ones for you.
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A lesson in INSTAGRAM ETIQUETTE (aka how to not be a c**t on Instagram):
1️⃣If thou has nothing nice to say, thou shalt say nothing at all.
2️⃣Thou shalt refrain from attacking others appearance or feelings.
3️⃣Thou shalt speak to others how thou wishes to be spoken to.
4️⃣Thou shalt not like the comments of trolls - this makes thou a troll.
5️⃣Thou shalt simply unfollow accounts that cause me anger or insecurity.
6️⃣Thou shalt not allow bullying to go unchecked.
7️⃣Thou shalt report harassment or bullying behaviour.
8️⃣Thou shalt not assume a public profile means ‘open to criticism’.
9️⃣If thou wishes to share an opinion, remember to always be kind.
1️⃣0️⃣Thou shalt remember there is a real human behind the screen. -
Did I miss out on any? Any you think I should add?
I’ve put a template of these points in my stories. While most of us will think this is all common sense, I am astounded by the ignorance of so many people and therefore I hope this template can be shared to educate them. We can make a difference. #hatershavenorighttohate .
Hair (sorry for the messy bed head) @trystforhairperth
Eyebrows @alisonjadebrows
Smile @advanceddentalartistry
Skin @absolutecosmeticmedicine

Am I:
A) basking in this giant tub with its glorious backdrop ⛰
B) straining to push one out? 🙈
Idk, ask @keiramary_ she was the one taking the photo 🤷🏼‍♀️ edit by me.
Location: far North West Bali @sumberkimahill

Angelic af 👼 #sunflare @villasemadhibali
I’ve been asked when/if I will be going back to Bali or how long I’ll be in Perth and the answer is, I don’t know.
For the past 2 years Bali has been calling to me and I’ve spent a lot of time over there but right now I’m not being drawn to it.
The work that I’ve been doing with @brainwellnessspa has taught me how important it is to feel safe and secure in your environment in order to work on your mind.
A brain under stress will resist change and will always revert to what is comfortable and familiar (for me this has been anxiety and glass half empty).
Bali wasn’t stressful in the conventional sense but it was definitely hitting triggers for me; triggers around loneliness, around friendships, loyalty and trust, triggers around personal safety, and triggers around change. The combination of these triggers made me feel a lack of security in that environment.
I love Bali, it’s my second home and I have so many more photos to share with you guys from my time there, but for the foreseeable future, Perth is where I will be while I continue to work on my brain and start the next chapter.
I hope you will continue to follow this journey, your support has meant the world to me and I hope i can give back to you in a way that inspires and comforts.
Pic by @jaredmason edit by me
Location @villasemadhibali

NOT coming soon to a screen near you 🙅🏼‍♀️ I still wanted to show you the gorgeous swimwear and outfits I was sent to wear on paradise as these are some of my favourite Aussie brands and they have been so kind and understanding after what happened. I thing this song really sums up my feelings towards that franchise 😂🖕🏽 Which swimsuit/clothing do you like the most?! (Swipe right for more!) In order of appearance:
@kotomi_swim
@boundbybondeye
@bondeyeswim
@gnashswim
@showpo
@birdandkite
Hair by @trystforhairperth
Body by @f45_training_seminyak

I saw you standing there
Sandy blonde hair, the way it came tumbling down
Just like a waterfall
And if you need a light
I'll be the match to your candle
My darling, I'm ready, to burst into flames for you ~ Lyrics @vancejoy new single #imwithyou #vancejoy on repeat atm!❤️❤️❤️
Who’s going to be my match?
Pic by @eyesofanomad edit by me

Watching sets down in Uluwatu during the @mindspo retreat last month. The surfing, the yoga, the meditation, the food, the ocean; I felt so happy! 🧘🏼‍♀️ 🏄🏼‍♀️ Now watch as I don’t receive any comments telling me I should have felt happier. ALL emotions are important and should be shared! #mentalhealthmatters
Pic and edit by me 😌

Wow I am so grateful for the overwhelming support and kindness I received on my last post. Thank you to everyone who took time to share their experiences, empathy or advice. I honestly feel so much lighter.
HOWEVER, some of the comments were not so kind or helpful and highlighted to me a continued lack of understanding in the wider community around mental health.
A common thread amongst the criticism was, “there are real problems in the world such as murder/starvation/poverty”. Here I was thinking that as a society we had moved past the days where you had to ‘drink a cup of cement and toughen up’ when it came to our mental wellbeing. I thought we had learned from the past that belittling or discouraging someone from expressing their feelings actually does MORE damage. I thought people had learned from #areyouokday and #itaintweaktospeak that it is ok to not be ok (no matter what burdens you) and that it is healthy to talk about it. Clearly I was wrong, we still have so far to go.
I thought that we were teaching our children that someones pain and hurt should not (and cannot) be measured, there isn’t a scale to determine how someone should feel in response to an event. What is hurtful and triggering for one person, may be insignificant to someone else, but that doesn’t diminish its significance for the person who is feeling it. Just because you may not agree with or understand someone elses feelings, does not make them any less real or less relevant.
Suicide rates continue to rise and a large reason is because we do not nurture and encourage the expression of ALL feelings (not just the mushy happy ones that prevail on Instagram). I continue to fight for vulnerability, authenticity and realness but I can understand why people are afraid to do this given some of the inconsiderate responses I had on my last post. Life is messy, its not always pretty, and yet social media continues to reward the fake and superficial. When I post about a happy moment in life I never have comments telling me I should feel more happy and yet when I post about something that has upset me, people feel it is appropriate to tell me I should feel less upset. #mentalhealthmatters

The better, more mature thing to do might be to say nothing, to take the graceful and humble route BUT I’m a stickler for justice and I don’t think that people or organisations should get away with appalling behaviour.
Some will say I’m just disgruntled and bitter, and you’d be correct, given the way things happened I am disgruntled and very bitter. I don’t write this for your sympathy or judgement but to help myself heal and to share with you not only the good times but also the really shit times in life.
If you’ve read this far then you are interested enough to know what’s going on.
3 months ago I was contacted by casting for Bachelor in Paradise. My initial instinct was to steer clear and so I told them I needed time to think about it. My friends all told me it was a bad idea having seen how mentally draining and emotionally distressing my past experiences on the show had been. Against my better judgement and tempted by the money and opportunity, and even a little by the unlikely chance of love, I agreed to an expression of interest with a couple of stipulations for me to come on the show. At this stage I knew that I was only in the consideration stages of casting and it wasn’t yet a sure thing.
About 2 weeks later I received a call that, in hindsight, I wish I had recorded as evidence of the deceitful nature of the show. I was told they were excited to proceed with me and that I had to complete medicals and other paperwork. The stipulations I had mentioned they told me ‘should not be a problem’ and I was asked for an address that they could send my contract to. I was then emailing with a lady who would be ‘handling our medical paperwork and travel arrangements’ and they wanted to know where I would need to be flown from (Bali or Perth).
After this phone call and the discussion about my contract and flights I had believed that, given I pass all the medicals, I would be going on the show. It was never stated to me that there were further stages in the casting process.
Over the next two months I began working with @brainwellnessspa and @mindspo to get into the best headspace I could ...
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Sometimes things happen that are completely unfair, completely unjust, completely sucky and there’s nothing you can do about it. That’s life. I just have to hope that things happen for a reason.

When your world gets turned upside down. 🙃 @sumberkimahill
Pic and edit by me

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