When you have been told all your life that there is something wrong with you, it kills something in you, and it makes you cold and angry at the world and you start projecting and becoming just as miserable as the people who continuously feel the need to remind you of your flaws. You end up being just as mean and using it a defense mechanism ... so you can feel better about yourself. I always say my self love journey started in my late teens and in my 20s, it took so much for me to get there, before that, I did not even know or understand the meaning of body shaming , and I did not know that as a victim, I could also be a perpetrator of body shaming. I remember having deep hatred and envy for skinny women, because all I ever wanted was to be skinny, I'd go days without eating, praying I'd be thin too. My desire to be thin created resentment towards skinny women, and I became nasty to them because I felt it was not fair for the world to celebrate them and hate me.
In my teen years, If someone said anything bad about me, I felt the need to also say something even more hurtful
I bless the day I grew up and realized that I was just as harmful as everyone that had ever told me I'm ugly because I'm fat, and I am truly sorry to any skinny girl I've ever said anything nasty to, because millions of thin girls get told "eat 10 burgers" "the wind is gonna blow you away" "you look like poverty" ...I cannot believe at some point in my life I thought this was okay, it's disgusting because this too is body shaming, body shaming is not limited to big women, and I always block people who come on my page to praise my body by looking down on smaller bodies because I get hundreds of messages from smaller women, who too are dealing with serious self esteem issues.I did this shoot with @tshepiso_ralehlathe to celebrate ALL BODIES, to date this is still by far one of my favorite photographs. We're all beautiful in our own way...just because you are not beautiful like the next girl, it does not mean you're not beautiful like you❤️