October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. Today, October 15th, is International Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Remembrance Day. Being a mother to three angel babies, I've never shied away from advocating to raise awareness of this issue. Too often society underestimates the severity of the impact that PAIL can have on a person or family.
We remain silent to avoid awkward situations or because we are made to feel shame. When we do speak up we are often met with responses like 'well at least it happened early', or 'you can always try again', as though the loss of life was meaningless and our pregnancy and emotions are not valid. What some people fail to realise is that from the moment we discovered that life was growing inside us, we loved that life, planned a future with that life and it was our baby. It will always be our baby. While we may not have been able to hold our babies, or we only held them briefly, we loved them fiercely.
Please don't ever feel like your feelings are not validated, that your baby was less than another because it was so tiny. Do not feel alone. 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage and around 3000 babies in Australia are stillborn or pass away soon after birth. Seek love and support from others who have shared experiences. Ignore those that think you can replace your baby with another so easily.
If we cannot carry our babies in our arms, we should carry the memory of them in our heart always. Celebrate the life you created, no matter how fleeting it may have been. Cry for, love, cherish and remember your baby. You may have lost a piece of yourself the day you lost them, but you now carry a piece of them with you, and that can never be taken from you.
Please join me in lighting a candle for our babies this evening at 7pm for the International Wave of Light. 🖤
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