It's easy to be proud of ourselves and love ourselves when we stay on track with our schedule and goals, when we get a good review at work, when we fit into those jeans perfectly and when that person you went on a date with replies to your text. However, how do you feel about yourself when you get don't fulfill on your goals? When you make a mistake? When you don't get a reply from your date the next day? When those jeans don't fit?! What do you say to yourself? Do you beat yourself up? Do you tell yourself you aren't good enough? Do you tell yourself you aren't attractive? What dialogue do you have with yourself? Are you aware of how often you talk to yourself negatively?
I know I have had a poor dialogue with myself most my life. I just didn't realize how much of it was going on until I took on having a positive dialogue with myself. I was an ass to myself. Here's the thing. We talk to ourselves in ways we (most, I hope) would never talk to our friends. Can you practise self love for one minute in the morning? Tell yourself you love yourself, tell yourself that you are hot AF, tell yourself that you are smart, kind, funny, interesting, courageous? Whatever it looks like for you. Notice if a minute seems like a long time, commit to a minute even if you have to say the same thing over and over. Try that for a week. See what happens.
When something happens listen to that voice in your head. If that voice is saying something that you wouldn't say to a friend, imagine you talking to your best friend or better yet? a very young version of yourself. Would you tell the young version of yourself that you aren't good enough? Or that they don't matter? Loving yourself is the access to accepting love and loving others.
I really noticed the negative dialogue I had going on with myself when I started listening to myself on the mat and when I ran. Instead of just stopping that voice I practise being my own cheerleader of love and compassion. It's making me feel way better than telling myself to push harder and to get better and be better and blah blah blah!
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