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Christina Lerchen  Writer, grief coach, quote lover and cheese addict. Trying to help other women navigate life's unexpected moments such as grief, loss, or overwhelm.

How you want to be remembered? I ask myself all the time... life is full of so many endings. So, I try my best to think of my life as chapters. New beginnings. New chances to be brave.

Every morning is a change for a new beginning, whether it is perfect or not. Just take the first step, the first try.

Every morning is your chance at a new horizon. xo

#griefsupport #bebrave #youareloved

We all feel like we are holding onto the end of our rope sometimes... that life is hitting us from every direction.

But, I promise you that you are stronger than you realize.

Don't ever let go of your hope. Don't ever let the bad days (or weeks) break your spirit. You must hold on.

Even if you make a small movement forward.... give yourself 5 min of rest.

Move forward slowly and by being kind to yourself.

You will look back with such grace, and wisdom, and compassion.

Your oak tree will be strong at the roots from all the seeds of hope and love and vulnerability you give it.

I stumble every day...but I get back up. I am learning to forgive myself when I have set backs. We must keep moving forward. No matter how many times we fall.

Your healing will always happen in small, baby steps.

Be gentle with yourself during any of life's set backs.

You don't have to be better instantly. You don't have to have all the answers or be the perfect person.

Small steps my friends. Be brave enough to try. xox

You keep listening to the lies you tell yourself, replaying them like a beloved song. You do this, not because you love being stuck, but because being stuck feels safer than going after what you really want.

I have been there. Owning my confidence and my passions is daily practice, and one I consistently work on.

Self-sabotage is the playground bully that keeps pushing you around and it’s time that you get angry. It’s time that you stop listening to his taunts and insults.

It’s time that you take back your power and become the fantastic person you were meant to be.

#loveyourself #selflove #bebrave #resilience

This is friendship. These magnificent friends made sure I felt included and loved. These gals made sure that I was there with them in spirit (and pics!) since I was unable to make the Florida trip we had planned for months. Because my health has taken a beating and I couldn't travel. But, seeing these pics made me realize I should not be ashamed of what is happening, because the people who love you make sure to show up. I have been dealing with alot of pain since July, and after too many doctors to count, I can share what is going on: Along with endometriosis, it has been found that I have Abenomyosis, which is a condition in which the inner lining of the uterus (the endometrium) breaks through the muscle wall of the uterus. Essentially, a normal uterus should be a size 7, and mine is a lovely and large size 10 (apparently, even my organs are alittle chubby!). The first doctor wanted an immediate hysterectomy, so for weeks I have been battling with the thought of being forced into menopause before my 40th birthday. I have been told it would not be safe for me to carry a child. I have been told every option under the sun regarding my fertility and my choices. I have sat in waiting rooms, looking around at the other women who are mothers in their hearts, and yet can not find a way to be a mother in real life. I have seen their faces filled with hope, and loss and grief. Yet, we don’t talk about it because fertility issues is something uncomfortable. It is painful, it is messy, and it takes away something from you as a women that goes deep into your core. So, I have been fighting to figure out what is right for me.⠀
I was able to find a specialist who will help me without wanting to jump in and do a hysterectomy. I found a specialist who listened, and who told me it doesn’t have to be so black and white. I go into have surgery on Sept 12th, and will be able to get back to being normal (although, I can honestly say that I don’t know what normal is anymore!). It will be a very tough surgery, but I am grateful that I have a choice. I have a choice of what happens to my body. #bebrave #reallife

Boundaries. We put them around our homes with fences, we put them up in relationships, romantic or otherwise, and the list goes on.

But what happens when we put up boundaries around ourselves? The creeping feeling of self-doubt can be that giant, insurmountable boundary that keeps you from moving forward.

It is the road block we build within our minds that can make even the strongest ideas crumble and fall apart.

We all have those moments of hesitation and self-doubt. It is the tiny, annoying voice that keeps telling you “why me.” I am here to tell you to ignore that voice.

#loveyourself #selflove #youareenough

I can't say this enough. ⠀

Be wild in your quest for healing. ⠀

Draw. Dance. Laugh. Paint. Cook. ⠀


Be brave in your recovery. ⠀

#bebrave #arttherapy #griefsupport #youcandothis #zentangle

Find the thing that gives you hope. Find the thing that inspries you to try. ⠀
Even after your suffering, even after you feel you have lost the ability to see the beauty. ⠀

"Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can’t cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. It’s just there, and you have to survive it. You have to endure it. You have to live though it and love it and move on and be better for it and run as far as you can in the direction of your best and happiest dreams across the bridge that was built by your own desire to heal." -Cheryl Strayed⠀

#braveenough #grief #griefsupport #griefjourney#griefawareness #griefquotes#griefandloss #mindest

Loss of any type can feel like a tornado.

Because sometimes it just keeps coming.

It can knock you to the ground.

I had someone confide in me that they felt like "life was pummeling me from every direction. Every week it was another loss or another devestation. It came to the point where I was embarrassed because of all the loss back to back. I didn't want people to think of me as a disaster"

It is true. Sometimes, we don't get to choose when things fall apart.

Sometimes we can feel like a disaster.

But, you are not. You are not alone in your tornado.

During these times, take a moment to sit and close your eyes....and breathe.

Just breathe in the moment and let go.

Breathe out the pain. Breathe out the fear.

Give yourself this moment of grace. Breathe my friends.

#justbreathe #grief #griefjourney #healing #hope #thebestunexpected

I can't repeat this enough. Your tears are nothing to be ashamed of.

Allow yourself to grieve. Allow yourself to feel.

Cause, it will come out one way or another.

Hold in your tears, and they will flow when you least expect it.

After Nikki passed away I kept saying I was fine until one day I couldn't stop crying in the middle of the grocery store because one of her favorite songs came on.

Because I had bottled it down. I had pushed the tears down so far that they exploded out of me.

So, now I try to allow the tears. Allow the vulnerabilty...because I know it is the ONLY path to healing and coming to terms with my grief.

Our tears heal us. xoxo

#griefsupport #healing #selflove #bebrave #bevulnerable #griefawareness

Journals have somewhat cheesy reputations.

It is easy to re-imagine your years in junior high writing the chronicles of your awkward encounters with your crush, or jotting down how much your parents were stifling your social life.

I am here to tell you that the journal has grown up.

The benefits of having one go far beyond writing your deepest darkest secrets. They are useful for SO MUCH MORE than that! I'm talking mental organization, creativity optimization, and most importantly, goal orientation and stress reduction.

#journaling #griefsupport #arttherapy #bebrave #shareyourstory

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