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#lazyparentinghack - DOWNTIME

Do your teens like to spend time together? With you and with each other? Just hanging out? I feel immensely lucky that mine seem to 😉. .
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One of our favorite ‘downtime’ things to do together is watch TV and go to movies together. The fact that I LOVE teen fiction and crazy reality shows helps me here. I really DO enjoy them.
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I’m a firm believer that being in “their” world and consuming “their” media is a great way to stay connected. It has allowed me over the years to ask questions and start conversations that have gotten me insight into “their” world.
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Recently we went to see the feature film ‘Mama Mia! Here We Go Again’, watched ‘To all the Boys I’ve Loved Before’ and last night we started the new series THE 100. It’s about a group of 100 teenagers, mostly delinquents, who get sent back to earth hundreds of years after a nuclear disaster that destroyed all mankind. They are sent from the adults as test subjects to see if the earth is inhabitable. No supplies, nothing. Think ‘Lord of the Flies’ version 2018. We are only 2 episodes in but we think it is a winner.
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These films and shows have allowed me to have little (&big) chats about different things we see on the screen...and relate them to our lives. Life lessons and philosophies to discuss and insight into their own thoughts on things. It also lets me share my thoughts with them and gives them insight into my teenage self. .
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If I didn’t take these opportunities to hang out in their space I would be so much more ‘out of it’ with regards to where they are at. I wouldn’t ‘have a clue’ so to speak.
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I really encourage you to watch their shows, their movies, read their books. It has created connection. conversations, understanding, and a mutual respect between us for that which they are going through and that which I went through as teens.

It’s #backtoschool time and many of my friends have grads heading off to College and University this week. Most of them living on campus or off site in an apartment, away from home. It got me thinking about all the things 18 year olds should know how to do before heading off - heck maybe even sooner!
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How to clean a house - do they know how to mop, how to vacuum and sweep? Do they know how to clean a toilet? A sink and bathtub? Will they be the roommate from hell with their horrible mess they leave behind or will they be helping to keep the living space clean? Do they know the dangers of letting dirty dishes pile up in their room ? Do they know what to do with the bug infestation that will result?
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Household fixes - do they know how to change a light bulb? Do they know how to hang a picture? Do they know how to use a screwdriver/drill? If things go wrong in the house/apartment can they fix it? A big one here for me is do they know where the fuse box is? What to do if they blow one and how to go check and turn it back on? Do they know what to do if the toilet or sink leak and run over? Do they know where the water shut off valve is for these things? Do they know how to plunge a toilet? Why their shower drain is clogged up and how to get the hair out? A quick lesson by you could save them a lot of stress and damage!
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Appliances - do they know how to use the stove, the oven, the dishwasher? How to cook basic meals (maybe even fancy ones). Do they know how to do laundry? What all the symbols mean on the washing machine and dryer? How much soap to put in? What gets put in the dryer vs not? How to clean the vent on the dryer?
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Their car - if they have one….do they know how to fill their tires with air? Fill up with gas? Change a flat tire? Do they know how to jump start their car? Do they have jumper cables in their car? Do they have a BCCA or other car emergency service that they know how to contact or get help from in an emergency?
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Adult things #1 Do they know how to access their online banking info? Do they have a <<more in comments>>

Happy weekend friends! 💗
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What did your child do, that you were shocked that they are a mini you? (Comment below) #kidlife #truetrue .
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#parentingteens is a lesson in reading body cues! Do you allow your teen space when they need it? Back off when you know it’s a bad time? #mutualrespect comes from treating our children as we want to be treated. I ask for a lot of “alone time” when I need to cool off or escape from the craziness so I have to allow them time to do so too. What about you?
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#lazyparentinghack KNOW EVERYTHING

Monitor their phones.
Check their DMs.
Make sure they know you will do so.
Start young!
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I firmly believe that we, the parents, have the right and duty to check up on our kids. I also believe it is important to have an open dialogue about doing these things with them. I don’t hide it from them. They know that I monitor what apps are on their electronic devices, what electronic/video games they play, that I check their DMs, that I read the same books as them and that I call and check about parental supervision/what movies are being watched at parties (to name a few). Does this make me a control freak? An over bearing parent? Super strict?
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My guess is that many of you will say yes...and I’m ok with that. I encourage you to keep reading because I strongly believe that a HUGE piece of my parenting puzzle is this. “I believe that because I have held the reigns tightly from the beginning, I am able to loosen them as they get older instead of making them tighter.”
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What I mean is, if you have never kept an eye on these things with your children, all of a sudden doing so as a teen will NOT work. If grades start to fall, curfews begin to be broken, behavior gets bad...having punishments that take away things that they have always had or had access to will be very difficult.
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I believe that trust gets built over time and if we have been very strict when they are little about our expectations around behavior, clothing, curfews etc., then the goal is to be able to loosen up as they become teenagers. If they have always let you know where they are, called when asked, come home when told, been honest and forthcoming about what’s going on with them and friends and maintained their grades, than they have built up the trust. It’s a slow and gradual progress this growing up thing. If they have always had really loose boundaries and allowed to do whatever whenever, then it is really hard to “lay down the hammer” when they are a teen. Especially as a punishment. It won’t work. This is what I believe rebellion comes from <<more in comments>>

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Building your “village” doesn’t have to mean just those that are going through the same thing as you. I found ENORMOUS value in having mothers of all ages and experience in my circle. The value of their stories, their insight, their being at the other side oft the chaos I was currently going through was PRICELESS and I am eternally grateful to them. 🙌🏼
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I hope to create a community and possibly host events in which we can all learn from each other and share our stories across generations. Does this sound like something you would value? Let me know!
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Be sure sure to clink the link in the bio to head over to YouTube to watch the whole video! And then leave a comment and share with friends! Thanks you!
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#Repost @lazyparenting with @get_repost
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Building your “village” doesn’t have to mean just those that are going through the same thing as you. I found ENORMOUS value in having mothers of all ages and experience in my circle. The value of their stories, their insight, their being at the other side oft the chaos I was currently going through was PRICELESS and I am eternally grateful to them. 🙌🏼
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I hope to create a community and possibly host events in which we can all learn from each other and share our stories across generations. Does this sound like something you would value? Let me know!
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Be sure sure to clink the link in the bio to head over to YouTube to watch the whole video! And then leave a comment and share with friends! Thank you!
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#lazyparents #lazyparenting #parentinghacks #parenting101 #realparenting #parentingtips #parentingishard #parentinggoals #parentingadvice #parentingblogger #Imomcanadian #parenthood #momstruggles #realmomlife #momlife #momsofinstagram #momgoals #thatmomlife #dailyparenting #attachmentparenting #parentingwin #positiveparenting #momgoals #vancouvermom #yvrblogger #yvrmoms #yvrmompreneurs #vancouverblogger #canadianmom #parentingteens

Building your “village” doesn’t have to mean just those that are going through the same thing as you. I found ENORMOUS value in having mothers of all ages and experience in my circle. The value of their stories, their insight, their being at the other side oft the chaos I was currently going through was PRICELESS and I am eternally grateful to them. 🙌🏼
🙌🏼
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I hope to create a community and possibly host events in which we can all learn from each other and share our stories across generations. Does this sound like something you would value? Let me know!
👍🏻
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Be sure sure to clink the link in the bio to head over to YouTube to watch the whole video! And then leave a comment and share with friends! Thanks you!
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#lazyparents #lazyparenting #parentinghacks #parenting101 #realparenting #parentingtips #parentingishard #parentinggoals #parentingadvice #parentingblogger #Imomcanadian #parenthood #momstruggles #realmomlife #momlife #momsofinstagram #momgoals #thatmomlife #dailyparenting #attachmentparenting #parentingwin #positiveparenting #momgoals #vancouvermom #yvrblogger #yvrmoms #yvrmompreneurs #vancouverblogger #canadianmom #parentingteens

#lazyparenting FORCED FAMILY TIME
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One of my favourite things we do as a family is “just spend time together”. I know, that sounds mushy and weird and all but….some of my favourite times are us (all 6 of us) just hanging out in each other’s company. It may be a ‘forced’ family walk through our neighbourhood or to a local park, it may be just chillin’ beside each other on the couch watching a show, it may be us all hanging out at the backyard sitting side by side reading a book/working or maybe even roasting marshmallows together as a late night snack. The thing is, it doesn’t matter what ‘IT’ is…the important thing is that ‘IT’ happens.
Because we are such an active house with many kids off in many different directions on any given day, we have to be purposeful and calculated about having these ‘IT’ times. Times where we are all just in each other’s company, occupying the same space. And yes, that means if it is an adventure out of the house, everyone comes, even if they don’t want to. I have found they usually warm up once we are out of the house and off to somewhere :) This past weekend was an especially busy one in which we were split up all over at many different events. We found a way to come together on the last day at one of the kid’s basketball games. I got everyone to agree to go out for dinner afterwards and we all had a blast. Today we followed up with a small outing to a local trail and again, just walked and talked and laughed.

I love it all, the jokes that are made, the teasing the happens (largely at my expense), the quibbles and squabbles and yes, even the spats that inevitably happen.

Why? Because in between those moments listed above are the things I cherish so deeply….the one on one conversations I see between my children as they walk down a path/trail together side by side in deep (& ofter private) conversation. The deep & tear inducing belly laughs over some inside family joke that makes us an embarrassment at the local restaurant. The opportunity for my children to see my husband and I joking and laughing together with all of them <<more in comments>>

The difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do.

Are you heading to the beach or lake today? This spot is an amazing place that stays shallow WAY out so the kids can explore, hunt for crabs/jellyfish/sand dollars and other fun treasures. As the #lazyparent I can either let them go off on their own or join in and explore with them. I think there is a time and place for both and both can be equally valuable IF me joining them is a time led by THEM to follow their lead and their exploration.
Child led play is an amazing opportunity to see the world through their eyes. And watching from a far is a wonderful ME time opportunity. 💯
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Which will you be doing today? Tag a friend who you will be spending time together with this weekend!
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Today’s post was about #riskyplay and #parentingfromafar 👌🏻
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Seems fitting that we headed to a local hidden gem of a park where there are these HUGE clay cliffs that the children climb up and then figure out how to get back down. All while I sit at a distance and watch with the corner of my eye. ☀️
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So much fun for them and nice and relaxing for me.
Be sure to click the link in my bio to read the whole article and let me know your thoughts here on this post!
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Today’s post was about #riskyplay and #parentingfromafar 👌🏻
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Seems fitting that we headed to a local hidden gem of a park where there are these HUGE clay cliffs that the children climb up and then figure out how to get back down. All while I sit at a distance and watch with the corner of my eye. ☀️
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So much fun for them and nice and relaxing for me.
Be sure to click the link in my bio to read the whole article and let me know your thoughts here on this post!
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#lazyparents #lazyparenting #parentinghacks #parenting101 #realparenting #parentingtips #parentingishard #parentinggoals #parentingadvice #parentingblogger #Parenting #parenthood #momstruggles #realmomlife #momlife #momsofinstagram #momgoals #thatmomlife #attachmentparenting #parentingwin #positiveparenting #momgoals #vancouvermom #yvrblogger #yvrmoms #yvrmompreneurs #vancouverblogger #canadianmom

#lazyparentinghack WATCH FROM A DISTANCE

I was watching my son at a volleyball tournament and had one foot in the side door of the gym and one eye on him, while I had one foot outside the door and on my daughter climbing the big tree in the courtyard. And I mean a BIG tree, like 30-40’ tall. 🌲
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My youngest LOVES to climb and she often pushes limits within herself with what some parents might call “dangerous” play. I watched, from a distance, as she climbed up and up and got to a point where I became “a little” uncomfortable. But here’s the thing, she wasn’t. At all. She was having a blast and was way happier out in the tree than she would have been in the gym trying to sit still. .
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The ones who WERE uncomfortable with her “risky play” were the other parents in closer proximity to her. I had to, on more than one occasion, call out “Yup! I’m here and she’s ok!” I got more than a few questionable looks and sideways glances. .
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The thing is, she’s been doing things like this since she was small. As the fourth, I am sure she has had way more risk in her life than my 1st born. And because of these opportunities and experiences, she has a confidence and positive self-image that I covet. She truly does believe she can do anything and proves it to all of us daily. I firmly believe this confidence comes from her pushing herself to do things and then either failing, getting back up and trying again or savouring her sweet success. .
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My hack today is to sit back and watch from a distance, don’t jump up and in right away when something goes wrong. See if they can handle the situation by them self first. Being a lazy parent doesn’t mean NOT watching but it does mean, starting at a young age, give them opportunities to stretch and grow and learn by themselves once in awhile. Let them feel the pride and accomplishment when they have a bit of independence and accomplish small feats on their own. Those smiles are priceless.

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