I always think I’m too repetitive with what I’m all about. Like I’ve said the same thing too many times and people get it/don’t care. I also tend to think my message is one that hundreds of people are sharing, and they are way more “significant” than me. But last night, I came across a fitness influencer’s instagram. She had 650k followers and the caption to the first picture I clicked on was “stop being a whiny little bitch and just do it”.
This is infuriating to me. And reminds me that there are still people out there sending this message. People look up to and aspire to be this girl because she is “fit and perfect and happy”. I understand where she is coming from, because I agree that if you really want something, you need to get off your ass and take action! But, I just think we need to hear (again and again) how important loving your current self is. You’ll never love your “end product” if you don’t learn to love and be kind to your body on the way. If you don’t love yourself and treat yourself with kindness in the process, you’ll end up telling people not to be a whiny bitch (no offense). What is unfortunate is that this girl is beautiful, and fit, and seemingly perfect. And when she puts captions and messages out like that, it makes any women that follow her hate themselves and become self critical. It makes them think, if I want to look like her, I have to be mean to myself and force myself to workout harder and eat better. It makes her followers think of themselves as whiny, weak, pathetic, incapable of achieving happiness and self love.
I hope that I have a bigger impact. I hope I have that many followers some day...not because I care about being liked...but because I want help others heal and spark self love, not self criticism. For as long as we listen to people tell us to work harder and try harder...and that perfection is attainable...and that it results in happiness, we will run in circles. We need leaders to show us a different way! We need people to repetitively tell us that the only way to happiness is through gratitude and love for all you currently are.