Love is simple. It's two people meeting and taking a liking to each other and striking up a conversation and creating an instant bond with each other. It's two people realising that they have amazing chemistry and deciding to explore what other interests they may share. Love is that simple.
But you, you are complicated. You have "dos" and "don'ts". You have preferences and idiosyncrasies, likes and dislikes. Issues and hang-ups. You have deal-breakers. Stuff you cannot abide by. There are certain things you won't condone or accept, no matter your feelings for your partner. You are complicated. And why shouldn't you be?? Your complications are a result of what life has taught you. They are the aggregate of your past experiences. Your complications or should I say "specifications" are the fences you've built around yourself to keep the dirty out. You have to be that way. You can't just be so cool that any and everything is accepted or overlooked. Your complications are your defence mechanism because ultimately you don't want to get hurt or be left with the short end of the stick. So you say "I can't be with an ungodly person", because you know that at some point their beliefs (or lack thereof) will become an issue for you someday. Or you say " I can't be with someone who is overbearing" cos you know that you're an inherent know-it-all and can't stand not having your way often. And they say "why are you so complicated? Why are you throwing up obstacles and roadblocks?" And you say, "it's not me, it's this whole love-thingy, it's really complicated". Nah. Love is simple, but it brings a lot of our issues to the limelight. It makes us have to deal anything that stands in it's way. Love just wants free reign. No holds barred. Love wants to flourish. And it wants everyone to be happy. But you can't ignore some of these things that pop up. So sometimes you realize that it won't work out. Or it can't work out. And then you say love is difficult. Naaah...love is damn simple. It's you. You are complicated.
Now pause, before you fight this truth!
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