I was raised in a very conservative Christian world. I went to private Christian schools throughout elementary and high school until I decided to attend a secular university. I grew up going to church twice a week. Now I say all this past tense not to say I’ve left my religion because I haven’t. My faith is the most stable part of me. I love God and pray every day. I’m just trying to make a point. Growing up the way I did, I learned to be modest in how I dressed and how I behaved. What I also had put in my head was that it was my job to make sure I did not “tempt men to sin”. As I got older and even in my later years of high school I started to question why the blame fell on women. Why was it that I couldn’t show skin above my knees and below my collar bone? It wasn’t just to instill a modest mindset. I knew how to be modest and not be provocative. When I began to question this, the responses given were “you can’t show your legs or any shadow of cleavage because the boys will look at you” especially because of me being short In stature I really had to watch my cleavage line because all the boys were taller than me and could see down my shirt. Your skirt can’t hug your hips, so because I have bigger hips and a tiny waist, I have to wear clothes two sizes too big because I was being immodest if I didn’t. I went through high school so ashamed of my body because I was wearing ill- fitting clothes and taught to think if I didn’t follow this guideline I was scandalous and obviously wanted the attention. Clearly because I wanted to wear clothes that fit me and made me feel comfortable meant I wanted to have boys sexualizing me and being perverts. That makes sense.... NOT. Why is it that we give the male species the benefit of the doubt for being perverts? Like boys will boys. That’s just what men are. That’s how they think. If they aren’t saying it they’re thinking it. However true that may be, why is it excused? Why is it my job as a woman to control your thoughts and actions? Why don’t we raise our boys to respect women?
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