Tuesday a plumber came to fix my hot water heater (again). We had an interesting conversation that day about politics and Trump. He seemed to "get it". Wednesday morning said plumber begins texting me. Somehow thought it was appropriate to use my phone number to start a personal conversation with me. I shut it down immediately and called his supervisor to lodge a complaint.
This is yet another example of a man who is using his privilege inappropriately. This is a small example but note worthy. If we don't call this type of behavior what it is when its starts small, it perpetuates itself until it ends up in the White House representing our entire country.
Dear men. We need you to look closely in the mirror right now. White men especially. You have had privileges the majority of the world's population has only dreamt of for centuries. Please stop using your power, authority and ego in destructive ways. Understand you have deep unconscious behaviors that you've been conditioned with. It's not your fault, it's systemic. But now it's time to wake up and get conscious of this!
What you do have control over is being open to changing these behaviors rooted in privilege. This requires honesty, willingness and listening. It requires that you recognize there is a problem at all. It requires that you want to wake up from this slumber. Hard, I know, because everything in our culture perpetuates ease for you. Why would you want that to change?! Think hard.
Right now, I want to call on white men everywhere to wake up to a new level of empathy. Stop using your power in thoughtless ways. Stop and think about your actions and choices. Stop and question yourself and your beliefs. Where are you using entitlement and force rather than listening skills and empathy for others' needs?! Privilege is a resource that if used properly could be a powerful change agent. That is in your control.
And to all leaders who are just now denouncing Trump: where were you when he proved himself to be a rapist months ago?! #whitemaleprivilage #misogyny
PS: White male privilege is like any addiction. If you don't think you have it, you probably do.