we all have the gift to open our heart, whether it's good or bad. that's what it's all about.. . .
Healer's corner : One way of letting go: Instead of trying to get someone out of your mind, try instead looking into your mind and heart, with conscious focused attention, and breathe through all the remaining feelings and emotions you are feeling in connection to that person. Feel them as intensely as possible. And do conscious deep breathing while you do that. Do not hold the breath when painful emotions resurface, but continue to breathe deeply and slowly through it all. If you do this with the intention of healing the relationship on an energetic level, and yourself in the process, it will be a very quick way of letting go and very healing for both souls, even for the other one who is not present. It will bring a feeling of resolution or completion.
If only life came with an eraser which could help us remove the memories that serve no purpose but to break us or shame us. Strength, resilience and other positive characteristics may come from the times we fell down and learnt to get back up again. But, some falls leave lifelong scars that will find true recompense only in the Hereafter. Until then, we keep writing things down and sometimes erasing it.