Thank you Kelly for putting into words how systemic shaming keeps models silent and the status quo intact. I too have felt compelled to remain quite and compliant because I feared acknowledging unethical pressures would be perceived by the industry as my failure, weakness, entitlement, or lack of the grit and commitment necessary to "make it". Believe me, I wanted to "make it" as much as anyone has wanted it AND I was willing to do whatever it took. But that is not sustainable nor should it be expected. Why is it systemically expected that models damage their mental and physical health to do their job? Why is self respect and self care seen as weakness or whininess? Why is holding adult professionals accountable for basic worker rights violations seen as "bitterness"? #noshame #workersrights Repost from @kelly_mittendorf #DearNYFW - I couldn’t figure out this post for a long time, and a friend finally told me that it was because models who speak up against issues in the industry that did not have “perfect” careers (aka myself) are seen in a “certain” way. Chiefly, that I “didn’t have what it takes” and now choose to throw a tantrum and blame everyone but myself. I think about the women who starved themselves, ate rotten foods to make themselves ill, developed drug and alcohol addictions, having had my own life ROCKED in an effort to desperately chase an unrealistic standard, and am aghast at the accepted concept that they do not have the authority to speak on a topic that they overcame. I am proud to be bitter and will forever believe an inch does not define you. In times of chaos let us make decisions thoughtfully, with positive intent, and realize the supreme importance of diversity and acceptance.
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