ARE YOU SILENCING YOUR VOICE?
For many years I was mute. Too afraid to say what I thought, how I felt.
Every challenge I faced, every struggle, every relationship breakdown I bottled up.
I shut down.
I couldn’t verbalise or articulate the torrent of emotions inside.
Like every time I opened my mouth to speak, an invisible hand clenched around my throat and no words would come out.
I was the quiet one. And always shamed for being so.
Every judgement, every criticism, every time I was told “you’re TOO quiet” made me increasingly self-conscious, had me withdrawing furthermore.
I didn’t speak up when I was emotionally battered.
I didn’t report physical abuse, instead playing it down, justifying it.
I didn’t say no to sexual encounters that left me feeling dirty and ashamed, despite the warning signs inside.
I didn’t share my views or opinions for fear of upsetting others, afraid that I wouldn’t be liked.
And the times that I DID speak my truth, I was chastised, shot down, a sponge for another person’s vitriol.
The truth is, your voice matters.
Your thoughts, beliefs, opinions, values matter.
Your FEELINGS matter.
When you silence your voice, you right those who wrong you.
You give them permission to disrespect you, to mistreat you.
You allow them to inflict their wounds onto you.
And in doing so you disrespect yourself.
This so easily transitions into business.
Not sharing what’s in your heart, the message that’s sizzling in your soul.
Too afraid to be judged, criticised, attacked.
The wounded part of you desperately wanting to be loved and liked.
Yet silencing your voice, your truth means…
NOT changing lives.
NOT impacting others.
NOT helping those who need you.
NOT serving at the level you were born to serve.
NOT standing up for injustice.
NOT doing what you came here to do.
NOT being who you came here to BE.
WHICH MEANS…. You’re making the world wrong because you’re not making the world right (in the words of my then 4yo daughter). And that is NOT why you're here!! No more silence.
No more shame.
No more hiding who you really are.
Time to uncage your voice and create RIPPLES in the world.