One of the most effective pieces of advice I received was, whenever you want to reach out to them, instead pour that love into yourself; love yourself the way you thought you loved them.
I love to love. And I dislike for those that I love to feel pain. However, the best thing I did for us both (me and my exes) was say ‘no more.’ It was deciding to choose me and let them learn how to both heal themselves (if they so chose) and deal with the love/trust/friendship they lost as a result of their refusal to look, love, and heal what was within. Discomfort can be such a great teacher. And love will not cost you, yourself. So, let it happen.
Oftentimes, the best thing you can do for you both is stop putting up with their bs/mess; is to stop carrying luggage they have to learn to carry and unpack on their own. Stop neglecting your heart, mind, and soul for the sake of “love” 💕 #MaquitaDonyel , my book is available on amazon 📖 🐛 are you a lover too? 🥀