Lady Bird – Greta Gerwig I will happily go to a movie with anyone whose around, and often prefer going by myself. But I had a feeling Lady Bird wasn’t supposed to be seen alone, or with just anyone. It was meant to be watched with a dear friend.
#ladybird was everything I hoped it would be (usually my expectations are low. You live and you learn after getting burnt by too many great trailers, but flop films). I was excited that it was by a woman (starting this project has truly hit home the significance of this – I knew it, but now I realllly KNOW it). It was, however, the Story, not the artistic surrounds, that got me.
A coming of age that felt and looked and sounded more like my own…Bad hair and outfits, which are SO good at the time. That unfathomable, beyond words, Love but dislike, disrespect, between mothers and daughters. The hard and fast falling and failings of first relationships. Surviving school and its social bullshit. Knowing you have outgrown your small small world of home and experience, but having no clue what the bigger picture actually entails.
But it is the two laughter-snacking-conversation scenes that sandwich the end of the first part, and the beginning of the last part of Lady Bird, between Lady Bird (“Christine”) + (Julianne) “Julie”, that I am holding closest. Tiny, in medias res, fragments, full of crumbs, and half sentences swallowed by giggles. You can’t easily show the nature of those friendships or moments, they are a feeling. Nothing can truly explain that bond. I don’t know what mine are made of. I just know they are one of the very best things and those scenes made me so happy.
Friendship, for me, is quality not quantity. I have a very small but very very close group of friends – most of them don’t know each other, we tend to move across timezones on a regular basis (internet, the best thing about you is keeping me close to them – not connecting me with strangers). True female friendship is a glorious thing. I am so grateful to have a heart full of these women, and a corresponding pocket in my mind that I can dip into filled with laughter, snacks and the most enriching and ridiculous half sentences.