Your womb is a sacred place and you should never let anyone take control of it.
Reproduction Coercion is when a partner involves ownership, control, and violence into the relationship by poking holes in condoms, or pressuring a partner to become pregnant using threats of violence or other kinds of abuse. Other forms of Reproductive Coercion includes:
Birth control sabotage – like poking holes in a condom, refusing to pull out when that’s what has been agreed upon or ejaculating inside a partner without consent
Removing condoms during intercourse without a partner’s consent
Pushing for unprotected intercourse
Hiding or throwing away a partner’s birth control pills, condoms or emergency contraception;
Reproductive Coercion happened to me when I was 19 years old. My ex-came inside of without my consent, I was upset that he came inside without letting me know. I became pregnant after that incident and my ex-left because he didn't want t deal with the responsibility. He later came back and said that he got me pregnant on purpose.It is not uncommon for men, particularly, to use pregnancy as a means to express ownership over their partner – for instance, if their partner is pregnant, they view that as an outward sign that they are “taken,” and this is in part what often drives pregnancy pressure and coercion. When it comes to reproductive coercion, what’s most important is recognizing the signs and acknowledging the seriousness of the situation. A broken condom or some pressure to let your partner not pull out may not seem as bad or as serious as physical abuse, but they are indicators of larger and dangerous problems. And becoming pregnant or being forced to remain pregnant when that isn't something you want or are ready for is a big deal. Pregnancy and parenting are significant decisions that should be made with the utmost autonomy, not under duress or pressure of any kind from another person.
It’s so important for us women to track our cycles and to know when we are ovulating. I will talk more about our cycles and ovulation and natural birth control later on this week. So much love to anyone who has been through this form of abuse. 💖