Regrann from @theshineproject - I've spent several days trying to accurately collect my thoughts. I've been getting asked if I'm going to use my platform to talk about the border crisis as children are being ripped away from their families. I've read countless posts and fundraisers calling for justice, asking how can this be, seeing photos of children with numbers on them and listening to voice recordings of children screaming for their families... •
I've gone back and forth between carefully trying to say this, and wanting to raise hell.
We lived in this terror that the country is finally seeing, FOR YEARS. EVERYTHING WE ARE SEEING AT THE BORDER IS A DIRECT VIEW OF THE CHILD WELFARE SYSTEM IN THIS COUNTRY.
How can we protect children at the border when we can not protect children within the border? We sacrificed EVERYTHING FOR OUR CHILDREN and we were still DESTROYED. There are hundreds of thousands of children in foster care. The majority will never be adopted, will never receive permanency, will live with untreated trauma, have failure to thrive, have attachment disorders and be moved from placement to placement literally being RIPPED from loving arms... BECAUSE OF POLICIES THAT WE HAVE ALLOWED TO DESTROY CHILDREN FOR DECADES.
We use excuses like, "even though the child was raised by a family for over half of their lives, it's not biological so there's nothing we can do..." and now we use excuses like, "well they're coming to the border illegally so we can separate and destroy"... because justifying actions is a hell of a lot easier than looking at the pain with our eyes wide open. •
After being a family for FOUR YEARS, and the children finally having permanency with us, they were LITERALLY ripped away overnight. We do not know where they are. We do not have contact. We get told, "they'll never forget you"... .
Go read the rest of her post. Read it and feel it. She said everything I've been thinking so much better than I could have. Like us, she has seen the awfulness that is "the system", but unfortunately their story didn't end like ours. Ours was the exception.