"This is a photo of bravery.
It was taken about a year and a half ago, when I had just come out of one of the most difficult and shattering times of my life. No one knew. No one knew because I hid it, and I hid it because it was too hard and too scary and there was too much I didn't understand to be able to talk about it or share it. I tucked it into boxes inside me and I latched onto the new life I was creating, but at the same time the old one was burning my insides into nothingness. I never felt pain like that before. The kind of pain that disorients you and shocks you and doesn't get better the way you want it to get better. I see this photo and I see the way I showed up day after day after day, nursing my baby and caring for my toddler, moving our house and for that year living in a canyon where it was not, at least for me, easy to live. I see the way I let that fire burning my insides do what it needed to, I see the surrender to the inside coupled with the strength to face the outside. I am not alone in this fire. I see women every day showing up in bravery. I see women going through absolute hell, while taking care of their kids and being a good friend and asking how they can help someone else who needs it. I see women allowing themselves to sit in themselves and their experiences, and in their faces, in their eyes, I see the most pure bravery I could ever describe. Every day in my work I get to witness this. And every day those same women who I sit with will go into their regular lives and 90% of the people around them will have no idea what they are going through and no idea how brave they truly are. We are layers and layers and layers deep, and there is always something more going on, there is more power than we see and there is more love, there are obstacles we could never imagine and there is pain we can't know about. Each of us carries with us depths from our experiences that sometimes we don't even know in ourselves yet. The bravery comes when we start to learn it, whether by fire or by love, usually pulsations of both. The bravery comes when we start to know it not only in ourselves, but in each other."