Mum crush & man crush errday. 💥
it took us 3 years to get to this point & here we are #mcf #family #startedfromthebottomnowwehere
Update: a few of you have commented and messaged about us being a biracial couple, yes that's why it took us 3 years to get here.
Acceptance, love and understanding with my Indian family of my relationship has taken time and work, unfortunate but necessary. I've had to follow my heart and stand for what I believed was right even if it was different than anything in my family. if we want to dismantle this divisive system keeping us from loving who we want and respecting all, we need to live by our values in our personal microlives first, in our own homes and with our own families. @thepathspirals also taught me how to not take anything personally, he models amazing compassion and vast perspective.
I really had to understand too that there are many truths. mine matters AND the truths of others matter for them- we can take responsibility for our own truths while allowing others to do so for themselves. i learned i don't have to carry the psychological burden of others' truths that i don't align with. My truth was loving a beautiful human who understands me and rises to meet me and me to him despite race, color, culture and the -isms. And at a time, my parents' truth was against our union for a myriad of reasons personal and traditional for them. Only when I accepted the difference in our truths, did the weight of it stop plaguing me- it was...what it was. the #visualaffirmation "I believe in my life and I believe in yours" came from this experience of working to accept multiple dualities. Things fell more into place too when I stopped waiting for it or wanting things to be different.
All this to say, follow your heart. You're not alone in the struggle to own the matters of your heart despite others', but owning your truth is your only responsibility. Keep loving, this is the work. #reflections #inshallah