Why I’m no longer posting any more photos purposefully trying to get a flattering/slimming angle or show off muscle definition:
I know we’ve all seen these Instagram vs. Real life posts, and I personally LOVE them. These are aimed towards showing the difference that just some simple, posing, angles, and lighting can achieve in making people appear slimmer or more toned. Real life isn’t walking around sucked in and flexed all the time, so why is that the majority of what we see online? Because we inherently think photos that make us look smaller are better, the smallest versions of ourselves are more valuable.
The thing is whether the message that goes along with these super lean looking photos is: drink skinny tea, cleanse your brains out, and don’t eat, or if it’s a more realistic message about working out and eating “right”, these photos that purposefully show the leanest angles of ourselves do contribute to a larger message that happiness and value lie in the number of ribs or abs that are visible. When you realize that the majority of women struggle with their body image and food you have to wonder just how much good a purposefully chiseled tummy photo is actually doing.
I’m in no sense suggesting that people who are lean and toned should hide their bodies or feel guilty about posting photos of themselves. But when we actively try to get the most sucked in and flexed photo of ourselves it only serves to build a false sense of self while assuring other women that happiness lies just a few jean sizes away. (And then even if they reach that dream size they have a deformed perception of what that size actually looks like in real life, ya know not posed). In the past I’ve had plenty of girls tell me I’m their “body goals” whenever I’d post a selfie showing off my toned body. This is the biggest reason I’m no longer posting these types of photos and I’ve gone through and deleted all of my purposefully lean looking selfies. I never want to be anyone’s body goals. Your body is perfect bc it’s yours, not anybody else’s. So while I’m not going to be hiding my body I’m also not going to be fooled into thinking that the leanest photo of me is the most valuable.