Sometimes we can get so totally wrapped up in wanting things to happen, the way we want, in our own time, and in the exact way we'd expect. Even though we may think that just because we can imagine what the outcome could be like, because we try our best to tick all the boxes and because we are trying to create that sense of urgency to manifest what we want, we believe that this "control" we have will necessarily keep us sane and our goals in check.
But in reality, that wanting, that need for control is exactly what creates all the fear and anxiety we have. Lots of it.
When we control, we act from a place of fear. Afraid that things won't turn out the way they should based on our expectations and assumption that we always know what's best for us. When we do so, we are actually limiting ourselves to the sea of possibilities that's in store for us. And because of it, we're inevitably caught in this headlock, only seeing this very obscure vision of what we think is the best for us.
Ultimately that is the ego's desire to control and make us think that there is only one "right" path and we will only be complete when we've achieved that particular outcome. When we give into ego's desire, when we let it overwhelm us, most often it leaves us helpless, defenceless and so so alone.
Here's where surrender comes in, learning to let go of control of a person, circumstance, and outcome. That's believing and practicing non-attachment. Learning from Gabrielle Bernstein, when we fully surrender to the universe is when we fully say "thy will be done" and let the universe do its thing. It is only then that we fully open ourselves to all the opportunities and gifts from the universe that awaits us. Even if it's hard, remember that the universe is conspiring on our behalf. It has our back, always.
- (Part 1 of 3)