I wrote this last year and feel like I need to share it again:
I am writing this because of the things I've been reading. Honestly I think it's something many people need to talk about.
This is just a piece of how rape culture has effected me:
While I was in high school (9th grade) people found out I had been sexually assaulted and thought that meant I was "easy". Guys that never talked to me said I slept with them. I also had issues in the hallways with guys grabbing my chest and saying awful things. I one day pinned a guy down for this and got into trouble for using violence. They told me boys are boys and I need to cover up if I didn't want them to try to touch me.
At 13 I was sexually assaulted and the police asked me what I was wearing. I had on one of those long pj T-shirts. I was asked why would a young "developed woman" would wear that. I would than for months be pulled out of class almost every day to be asked about what happened to me. I had police officers that told me either they didn't believe my story (the attacker said he thought I was a pillow) or what did I think would happen with almost nothing on.
I have had a couple guys show me their penis because it "would turn me straight". I have also had a couple guys tried to kiss me because "a real man" must not have ever done that.
I can tell so many other stories. I think the average person could also. None of this is okay. The things Trump says is not okay. Our children are watching how you act about him. Our children are watching how you watch people on TV that says it's okay. It is so not okay. If you read this and want to say something ugly to me don't . If reading this upset you and you think I shouldn't say such things look at yourself. It is our silence that makes people think it is okay. It is our silence that gives attackers power. I lived through this I am allowed to use my voice. I hope others may now use their voice and say how rape culture has had an affect on them.