the quality of one’s life is directly related to their ability to explore and be themself fully. #tbt
the pressure I feel to change my gender marker and name is directly related to others discomfort with who I am and how I present— it has nothing to do with how I identify. The purpose of IDs is to inform others of who we are, not to ease their discomfort and encourage ignorance. Keeping an F on my passport is my way of honoring the female part of me and not letting the system win. The oppressive binary that influences so much of our society does not get to simplify my gender to whatever folks see on the outside. •••••••••••••••••••••••••••
I’ve had my fair share of negative experiences at airports (both with TSA and airline gate agents). When walking through the body scanners, I can't help but notice them look me up and down before deciding whether to push the male or female button as I go in. Regardless of which they choose, I typically receive a pat down. If I’m wearing a packer and they select the female option, things get awkward. And believe it or not, when they choose the male option, they often stop me to pat down my chest (even after top surgery). Apparently these scanners were designed to single out trans bodies. ••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••
In July I’ll be traveling out of the country with a passport that lists my sex as female (the sex I was assigned at birth). The likelihood of me receiving questions and comments from customs agents and government officials is high. I will be bringing a letter with me from my doctor that states I am under their care for medical gender alignment/transition. Attached to that letter will also be a list of my rights a a trans person. Though it is sometimes scary and emotional, for me, if feels more important to have potentially challenging/uncomfortable conversations about my gender than it is to have a male passport and fly under the radar. I refuse to let the power of others assumptions and perceptions erase or define my #nonbinary existence. I strive to be myself fully in as many places/spaces as possible. I will not let fear get in the way.