Today, I am wearing blue for children's grief awareness day. So many people told us how we should just be grateful, how at least we had children. We shouldn't dwell on it. Someone very close to me even told my children that we didn't love them any more because Melody had died. We've been told we're too open, or that we're not handling the death in the right way, or explaining things the right way. All from people who have never lost a baby or child.
My children met and spent time with her, they loved her, stroked her, got as excited as we did when we were told she'd be coming home.
She died. The days after we didn't know whether we were coming or going. One thing that people assumed was that we spent days on the sofa crying. We didn't. We couldn't, we had to be strong for them. We had to lower our full pain, grieving expectations to help them, to carry theirs. They'd watched her be buried, they knew she had died, there was no mistaking it.
Now nearly 6 years on, they teach the world and most importantly their little sisters about their sister who "lives in the clouds".
I am so proud of how they coped, how well they raise awareness. Today, they'll have days, weeks even where they don't talk-just as I do. Others they'll include her in school projects,my son even taught a teacher to bring her up. I'm hoping they will help their generation to make the taboo a thing of the past. But people do need to remember - children grieve too. That's okay. #childrensgriefawarenessday #children #grief #babylossawareness #postneonataldeath #infantloss #melodyandme #neonatalloss #shareyourgrief #togetherforchange #siblings #littledaffodils