My daughter just turned six months and I can say that it took that long for me to adjust to being a mom of two. I knew it would take a while to adjust and here we are. A lot of people ask me if it was easier or harder the second time around and I tell them that it was a bit of both.
Having a second child was easier in the sense that I knew what to expect and was better prepared for labour, childbirth and the recovery period, although my recovery was a bit harder the second time around. I was a bit more relaxed with my second baby and didn't go into panic mode every time she cried. I knew to expect that my emotions would be all over the place and that sleep would be missed dearly. However, I found things to be harder with my second baby from the standpoint of having another child to care for other than just caring for my baby. When I had my first child, he was it. He was the only one my husband and I tended to so my husband had a much bigger involvement with him. Now with two, we divide and conquer 😅 he usually takes care of our son while I'm caring for the baby. It became harder with two when both are crying and you're not sure who to go to first. When you miss spending 1:1 time with your older child but your baby is 100% dependent on you. It has gotten much easier though over the past couple months as we've figured out our new family structure. My son has also adjusted quite a bit and tries to help here and there. When he sees his sister crying he goes up to her and says "it's ok layla, I'm here" as he gently strokes her and that is enough to help me get through all the exhaustion and sleepless nights and fills my heart with immense joy. I know they may not always get along or play well together but I pray that they grow up to have a close relationship and that they are there for each other. So if you're thinking of having a second child or already there, know that it will get better and easier and you'll have so many wonderful moments to look forward to👫💕