Good morning chocolate peas!
My breakkie on this grey morning was piece of bread topped w/ cream cheese and cheese 🍞 and a bowl of fresh pineapple and some supplements 🍍
How are you guys? Did you sleep well? Doora woke me up pretty early because she had some stomach issues. But I guess she's okay now.
I'm heading to the studio for ballet, so yeij! 🤗
One thing I need to address you about, because this just keeps bugging me. It's about validation, and how to validate others while being frank. Yesterday I received a comment how stupidly I act (read: eat) and that I must understand that because that's what I do: speak my mind.
And the thing is: I don't understand and I don't have to.
When I question someone else's actions, I never do it by judging the other person! Instead, I validate. I ask what is her goal - is it to get better or stay sick - and ask how this behavior serves her goal, what do you think. When I'm being frank, I never say that other person's behavior is "stupid" or something else, and then expect she/he understands, because I don't have the right to judge someone else nor tell how they should feel.
Because that is very invalid thing to do, and that will never help anyone! ✋
You can be frank without dissing and judging other one! But don't justify your actions based on someone else's, because you are not this other person, you are YOU!
So I guess I could shrink it in a nutshell and say, that it's not what you do, it's HOW you do it.
And do it with validation, do it without judging, keep it neutral🌾
I'm curious and you don't have to comment below, but I want you to think how would you be frank in a neutral and valid way?
What would you say?
Little nut for you to crack 😎
Wishing you all a fabulous Thursday, keep your head up high or your crown might slip 👑😘