The longer we avoid the feeling, the longer we delay the healing. There was a period in my life where I went YEARS without crying or feeling much of anything. I numbed all the hopelessness I felt about a relationship I was in by using anorexia. I think because I was a professional dancer and had a natural proclivity for perfectionism (and a perfect storm of background experiences), anorexia, instead of some other form of coping, was the way it manifested. Then I was hospitalized and unable to use those behaviors, and the tears just flowed and flowed. Felt like I didn’t stop crying for months. I was forced to sit with my feelings and actually feel them. And I wanted that to be the end of it, to just heal. I learned that grief isn’t linear. It ebbs and flows. BUT healing does happen in time, with a lot of work and a lot of Jesus.
“Feeling the pain is the first step toward healing the pain. .
We can numb it, ignore it, or pretend it doesn’t exist, but all those options lead to an eventual breakdown, not a breakthrough.
The feeling of the pain is like a warning light on the dashboard of our car. The light comes on to indicate something is wrong. We can deny it. We can ignore it. We can assume it’s a little glitch in the operating panel. We can even go to the mechanic and ask him to turn off that annoying little light. But if he’s a good mechanic, he would tell you it’s foolish not to pay attention to it. Because if you don’t attend to it, you will soon experience a breakdown.
The warning light isn’t trying to annoy you. It’s trying to protect you. And pain is much the same. It’s the pain we feel that finally demands we slow down enough to address what’s really going on below the surface.
I don’t know what pain you are going through right now. But I do know ignoring it isn’t going to make it go away.
Let’s honestly acknowledge all that hurts within us tonight with the Father. Let’s cry out to Him and invite Him into our pain. .
Because the longer we avoid the feeling, the more we delay our healing.” ~Lysa TerKeurst
Whatever you are going through, I’m praying God's peace and presence is so evident to you in the days and weeks to come.