I’ve been thinking very carefully before deciding to post this. I didn’t know if I was angry, hurt, or just plain baffled that somebody would say something like this to me but I’m gonna go ahead and share with you because I think there’s a really good lesson held within the storyline:
Recently a relative decides to tell me that they think I need to lose weight. I mean multiple times, reiterating that I couldn’t gain another pound or I was gonna basically bust. Now I’m no size 0 but I don’t know if you’ve seen me, just trust I’m not overweight. I am very health conscience in my home and although I do enjoy my food I am typically not over eating. Anyway to get to the point I explain to I know that I would feel good if I toned up which is what I’ve been working toward. They proceed to say “if you say so Alex, I am just telling you the truth because I love you”. 😒
I’m sure you think that the point of this post is about my weight by now... but the point that I really want to focus on is how some members of your family or some of your associates think that what they’re doing or saying it out of love (I’m sure there are good intentions within there). However there are more positive ways to reinforce healthy habits and there are more positive ways to go about giving somebody an opinion. Hell, there are more positive ways of asking if an opinion is wanted!!!! So as the old saying goes “If you don’t have nothing nice to say then don’t say nothing at all!” People are out here battling depression, self esteem, eating disorders, relationship abuse, or whatever else everyday. Be the kindness that you want to receive!
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