This requires no interlude. Love her #Repost @sasha_tozzi ・・・
Intimacy is not about being sexual. Intimacy is about seeing another person. Seeing them, hearing them, listening to them, and letting yourself be seen, heard, and listened to in return.
Many of the current issues facing humanity today, like addiction, mental illness, suicide, really stem from an overall and deep lack of connection (to one self, to something larger, and to others.) A lack of connection is a lack of intimacy and this lack is what will deeply harm the soul and cause a myriad of other issues.
Next time you’re in conversation, whether it’s via text or fb messenger or phone or face to face, take the time to ask someone how they are and really hear their response. Ask- “how’s your heart?” Give your attention. Listen with your heart, your soul, your whole being. It is one of the most valuable gifts you can give another. Do not underestimate the value, of even a 5-minute conversation, where both parties are present.
And when it’s your turn to say how you are, say how you REALLY are (this requires you to know how you feel & have awareness of your emotional landscape.) Do not say “I’m fine, and you?” Most likely you’re not fine and it’s just a front and then that closes the conversation and therefore shuts down the opportunity for you to connect on a deep level - the level that will feed both your souls. You can be great, you can be tired, you can be feeling hopeful, grateful, discouraged, sad, angry. You can be whatever you are. Feelings are fluid states.
And for the love of God, do not say “Hope you are well.” If you don’t have 5 minutes to actually care to ask how someone is, it’s better to say nothing.
This is emotional intimacy and this is what will nourish the depths of your soul. #snowwhite #preach #recoverywarrior #soberwarrior #recovery #anthonybourdain #sobr #emotionalintimacy #suntome #listen