Everybody wants to be accepted for who they are, nobody wants to accept others for who they are. Everyone wants to be understood, nobody wants to understand. Everyone wants others to be patient with them, nobody wants to be patient themselves. Everyone wants forgiveness from others, nobody wants to forgive others. We all want things for ourselves, we want to be opinionated and we want others to respect our opinion but we have no tolerance or respect for others opinions. We want people to fall in love with who we really are and not go for our looks and money but when we choose others, we choose them on these basis. We talk about falling for peoples character and nature too much for someone who doesn't fall for these themselves.
Start with yourself. Start doing things yourself, the things you expect from others. Be the person you want others to become. Before telling others what you want in them, be that person yourself and you might end up with who or what you want in life.