There's a DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) skill called "half smile". The skill is used to bring down distress. For example, I was really angry and frustrated this morning. The anger and frustration definitely matched the situation - meaning my emotions were valid. (By the way, I feel like so many people get mixed up when they're told to use skills in distressing situations. By no means does it mean that the other person is "right" or justified in what they said or did that made you feel a negative emotion. At the same time they may have been in the wrong, you get to decide if you stay in that hurt, or if you get out of it and continue on. All it means by using skills is that you're choosing to better yourself. Emotions last only a few seconds, and they pass; however, it is our thoughts and reactions that continue us to experience the distress.) So anyway, I got to decide if I wanted to continue rolling my eyes all day and being angry at the world. I chose to do "half smile", which is exactly what it sounds like - smiling a little bit, which is the opposite of the negative emotion you're likely feeling. Because my body language - slouched over, stiff and tense, took on those emotions of frustration and anger. So by standing up straight, smiling a bit (which by the way, feels totally uncomfortable in the moment !!), I physically altered what my mind was telling me. Usually when I use "half smile", I end up laughing out loud, because it feels unnatural and I feel like I look so silly !! But it absolutely works.
Also I want to say that it is healthy to express emotions. However, when emotions are negatively impacting your day, that's a huge problem. You don't want to be carrying over stuff from even a few minutes ago into a new moment. And every moment is a new moment, and a chance to start over. So it's best to be skillful so we can effectively cope and move forward. And I mean, why would you wanna feel frustrated and angry all day?! I sure don't! Comment below or message me if you'll think about using this skill, if you're gong to use it or if you have used it. I'd love to hear about your experiences. ❤️