I’m not saying don’t care or show respect for anyone, as we should all show some sort of respect for everybody in some sort of way, but you cannot please somebody who just cannot be pleased, and unfortunately those people still exist in today’s world.
Here are some @millionaire_mentor tips to help you STOP being a people pleaser:
✔️ Make peace with the fact that not everybody is going to like you and actually, that’s okay. It’s life. When you understand this, you start putting yourself first over the people who are irrelevant and provide no value to your life
👉 As a people pleaser your main drive will be to do everything in your power to make someone like you. For people pleasers, this comes from a place of severe low self-esteem. Basically, when people like you, you like yourself. When people don’t like you, your opinion of yourself drops.
✔️ Learn to say no in a way that feels okay to you and in a way where you don’t, and shouldn’t have to explain yourself or make excuses. NO is NO!
👉 The thing with making excuses rather than offering a firm and honest no, complete with a truthful reason that you can stick to, is that it opens up the opportunity of negotiation with the other person. If that happens, your inner people pleaser nerves are likely to give in and you’ll once again find yourself doing things that you don’t really want to do and putting yourself last.
✔️ Accept that you will feel guilty when you say no to something the first few times until it becomes only a quick and correct decision.
👉 People pleasers often feel guilty when they say no to a request. You will probably feel that you are being selfish or that you have let someone down. Understand that this is misplaced guilt. You have done nothing wrong, and that person will most likely find another solution to their problem. Duh!
✔️ Start setting some real meaningful boundaries.
👉 It’s okay to put yourself first. You will be a much happier, more productive and amazing person for it. The best way to do that? Set some boundaries. When we stand for nothing, we will fall for everything, as they say...! #motivationalboss