Repeat after me... I will not criticize others .... I will offer feedback. I will offer support. I will help the person improve... but I will not judge or criticize anymore 💘... How the hell are we ever going to get a real heart revolution going if we can't get along? Huh?! Be kind. Be honest. Be helpful. Be firm. But don't judge and criticize. It ain't helping and guess what it's gonna do? It's going to make people give up and quit. . We judge. We criticize. We say it's for someone's own good. Somehow we feel the need to school people .. Well I have been teaching kids and adults for 25 years and I can assure you that using encouragement, honest feedback, support and kindness will not only make a person better at whatever it is they are trying to do, but it will. also make them a better, kinder, more loving person.. And isn't that kinda the whole point?
It's easy if you want to stop behaving in a judgemental way .... Just make an effort to notice how much you do it... Observe yourself. Watch yourself. Don't criticize it or judge yourself. Stop that dialogue and just observe it. After awhile you will naturally stop doing it because you will have studied it and understood it. When you criticize and judge yourself you bring emotion into it. Its hard to change when emotions are so intense. So detach yourself by observing. We all judge, self sabotage, act like assholes, feel like loosers, have huge egos, say mean things, fall in love, want to punch people, feel sadness, feel anxiety etc.. You aren't special. So stop thinking your feelings are bigger or more important that others are. We all have intense feelings because we are human so accept it, get used to it and learn to manage and understand them. This works for every behaviour you want to change. It's It's easy to do and it works. My therapist taught me this very easy technique and my husband and I use it all the time now. Feelings are normal. Stop being afraid of them they are just information. Face yourself and change. Judging others or ourselves just ain't cool anymore. Heartbomb out... Xo