We often find ourselves in stupid, silly arguments which the only thing they do is disturb our inner peace and well-being at that moment...yet we still get so involved and like absorbed by them. I think we should never stop analyzing ourselves and observe our reactions to daily situations, so because of that, I’ve been trying to find a solution or better said, been thinking on how to deal better with those kind of situations; and what can I do right away to calm myself and let go of the argument.
What I have found that works for me is precisely what my grandmother used to tell me when I was little. It is to COUNT UNTIL you have already let go and have relaxed. What I’d rather do is to leave and go somewhere where I am alone, not necessarily go out but just some place where you can be alone at that time. Breathe and just start counting. I think it works because it is just simply a way of distracting yourself so that you can let go. Sometimes it might be harder than others but it’s about self-control and really just BEING AWARE that arguments don’t lead you to anywhere and repeat to yourself over and over again that you’ve got the control over your emotions. This is what I also do. I start thinking stuff that relieve me like “this is not gonna disturb my well-being”, “it’s not worth it“, “I want to feel good again” or “I have the control”. You know the typical quote we’ve all seen that says; “if it costs you peace, it is too expensive”. One of the most accurate ones.
So yeah this is an area that I’m working on and I thought about sharing it so that it might help others as well! Hope it did x
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