A year after we had been in the house we had a convo along the lines of ‘fancy getting married?’ ‘yeah alright then’ and then thought it best we get a ring so we look ‘properly engaged’ 🙄 to ‘everyone else’ 🙄 I know right.
So off we went to the jewellers and somewhere along the M6 the budget went out the window and I lost my mind telling myself that if I was ever going to buy a beautiful sparkly piece of bling it was going to be my engagement ring, forgetting that a) I don’t particularly enjoy wearing jewellery, and b) we’s broke 💸💸💸 Cue falling in love with a gorgeous ring four times the original budget and wacking it all (save for a 10% deposit) on 0% finance for 3 years with the view to having a long engagement.
I literally had buyers remorse within a couple of weeks, we ended up getting married 9 months later and now (when I remember) I only wear my non-matching (but stunning diamond and emerald 🙌🏼) wedding band which use to belong to my mum and cost me £50 to resize 🌚 I do crack out the sparkler on occasion when I want to feel sophis and like I’ve got my shit together, but for the most part it lives in its box.
Basically my moral of this sad, sad story is two-fold... 1. If you don’t have the money there and then, you can’t afford it, end of story! 2. It’s just a ring. You don’t need (him) to spend an arm and a leg on it when you could use that money for a fab holiday making amazing memories or a home improvement that will see you through for years to come. It’s definitely been a lesson that *things* don’t make you happy and as a result we only spent half of what the ring cost on our registry office wedding and I love love loved it and we’re just as married as we would have been had we spent £20k. Saying our vows was the best moment of my entire life and my heart still feels like it could burst just thinking about it. That, to me, is what your entire wedding day is about and I have no doubt that in 20, 30, 40 years time no bride or groom will remember the table decorations or flower arrangements or favours... It will always be the way the other half of your heart was looking back at you when you said ‘I do’ 💕