I have this feeling as if we're playing some kind of a game. A game of social norms, and I know how to play it but it's still so odd to me at times.
Last night we were stuck in a skytrain packed with people, so we were all up in each other's "space". Everyone was talking away to someone in front of them and whatnot. Then I thought, what if everyone just went silent for a second and then acknowledged all the other people around them.
It's this strange thing that we do where we talk to the people that we "know" and then all the other humans around us are somehow "strangers". I understand one can't possibly talk to everyone but it still weirds me out that we are supposed to ignore each other in this crowded city. And also I know it's tiring to acknowledge everyone, draining of social energy and that's maybe why we don't do it. And that's also maybe why cities are known for making people feel lonely.
Because you have so many people around you and then can't possibly all acknowledge each other hence causing the feeling of loneliness in a crowd.
But we can help alleviate this feeling. Of loneliness in us and others. Let's question the social norms of the city sometimes, let's look at each other in the eye for a second longer and actually acknowledge those around us. Let's be okay with bumping into someone slightly, and not freak out like you committed a crime ahaha. Etc.
Just some Saturday thoughts. Also I'm setting a social norm for y'all to come see me at work sometimes 😂 😘