THANK YOU @savemycents for this one. I really needed this. Holy moly. I have a shoe buying confession to make. It’s bad. Someone will likely lecture me for my honesty.
For real, I personally needed this badly. I took my new, high pay job in February. It was EASY to say no when we were paying off debt and saving a full emergency fund... but after that it got HARD for me. I love shopping. It’s a habit I work on breaking all the time. I had to unsubscribe from all the shopping emails when I was working the baby steps. Today though, it’s hard. I’m surrounded by other women who have incomes like mine and who don’t fight lifestyle creep. AT ALL. It’s honestly blowing my mind what is now a “normal” shopping habit.
My last job was in a hospital. It was easier to pretend I was an admin salary because no one knew or understood my job. Today, it’s much harder to say NO. Tell that to my nearly $800 shoe-buying spree I had over the last 4 months. I wish I was kidding. Don’t hate me. Ugh. I also learned my new terrible mantra is—-“but I paid all cash for it” ugh. Seriously. A new type of “I deserve.” I let my inner spender run amuck and my “I deserves” get the best of me. But you know what I realized?? I’m one of the freaks who loves their job..... LOVES it. But my husband is the exact opposite. Early retirement from a traditional job is for HIM. I realized this today as I nearly got a manicure even though I haven’t done that in a YEAR and I already blew through my spending money..... and yup it’s October 11. But that manicure..... no matter the price tag..... means I’m putting MY WANTS before my husbands DREAMS. That’s our mutual passion— for him not having to stay in a job that doesn’t bring him JOY. It’s hard to love your job and see the person you love hate theirs, or say “eh, it’s fine” each week. And that, my friends, made me drive right back out of that nail salon parking lot. Being and choosing different is SO HARD y’all. Keep your WHY bigger than your wants. Interestingly.... right after this... there was a huge double rainbow in the sky. I finally feel more on track 💚 #bigdreams #goaldigger #debtfreecommunity