Everybody's looking for that perfect marriage "till death do us apart" or for Muslims till they reach jannah together, yet the divorce rates are higher than any time in history.
People don't realize that marriage is a lot of work and responsibility, that it is not always happiness and sunshine. Marriage is designed to be through the thick and thin (literally). Your spouse is to be your other half, your best friend, and your comfort. You protect each other and have each other's back no matter what, through the good and the bad. These days you see people talking bad about their spouse when they are fighting, not realizing how much damage it does to the relationship. People run away from problems, and go to other people to talk about their problems or look at social media as a getaway, not realizing these things aren't gonna do anything except give a temporary distraction. The solutions are to be worked out with your spouse. Forgiveness is a major part for any marriage to succeed, forgive each other for one's shortcomings so you can live in harmony.
To my future wife, oh you're angry with me?? Take your angry self to the next room till you calm down cause we are gonna sort it out like adults, we will communicate and try to understand each other, we are gonna get through everything insha'a Allah. Life's a balance, we will focus on the ultimate goal of JANNAH but let's also enjoy life, have fun, explore and take things lightly. Wake me up for fajr but also challenge me at a sport or game.
Life is already stressful as it is, so let's try to make the best out of what we can.
So laugh, joke, argue, care about each other but also realize that your spouse is your second half and is the one who will be there for you at the end of the day.
May God first make us good, then bless us with righteous spouses who are going to be noor for us.
Let's follow the best of all examples, the prophet pbuh, for he was was kind, forgiving and caring. - Hisham هشام
Ps: I'm not gonna keep writing, neither am I perfect, just a post as a reminder to myself mostly and to tell my future wife ahead of time, that you better realize I'm in it for the long haul 😂😂