Last evening I sat down at a café, next to my table, were these two gorgeous women with absolutely stunning piercing eyes. They looked at me smiled as I placed my book on the table. I smiled back and my friendly side could not help saying “wow you ladies are so gorgeous” ! They said Thank you but almost in the same breath they said “yeah still no man”! ✨💜✨
I also found out that they were accomplished ladies with good jobs and everything else money could buy them, but I sensed a deep sadness coming from them, the feeling of” not being complete”
I was left stunned, and the rest of the evening, I spend contemplating!
This profound moment transported to my own life experiences as a young girl in my late twenties, where I felt the incredible pressures to “find the guy”, “find a man”, “get married”! The pressure from my peers, friends, everyone around me so intense that I almost felt an anxiety attack to find that man and get married otherwise the world was going to end! ✨💜✨
Luckily for me, my own family didn’t quite create that pressure and I felt differently about the whole issue, but I could not escape the trauma, of “not being with a man was such a crime”!
As I went on my journey of finding myself, the greatest learning, awareness and healing came through Self-Love! ✨💜✨
What is lacking in most women today, also includes men, like an epidemic, a plague that has ruled the human species and societies for over hundreds of yeasr! It is the core wound of “not being enough” that has lead women to be conditioned to believe, they are not good enough, they are not secure, they need a man to be complete, so on and so forth! ✨💜✨
In my work with young women over the last 16 years, and single friends and colleagues, I have so closely seen this “belief” embedded as a plague in young girls and older women alike, especially in the ages of late twenties to thirties, that it nearly paralyses them and their whole life revolves around finding that perfect man!
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