I'm the friend that you're not always going to like... For this exact reason: I'm going to hold you accountable to your goals and I expect you to do the same for me.
I know that word, accountability, carries such a negative connotation to it... and it doesn't have to be like that. Accountability conversations SHOULD be empowering and leave you motivated and ready to take action.
For example, if you tell me you want to get in shape, I'm going to make sure that when I'm around, you're eating right and working out... and we're DEFINITELY going to have regular conversations about your habits.
If you don't like being held accountable, you either don't want your goal as much as you say you do OR your ego is in the way... and both of those will cause you to surround yourself with "yesmen" who might make you feel good NOW, but who will allow you to get away with the excuses you keep giving. Yesmen are TOXIC to your goals so I will NEVER be that friend. I expect that you're going to set HUGE goals and work your ass off towards it and I'll do the same. We'll hustle together, struggle together and succeed together. That's the only way I want my friendships to be.
The key to having productive accountability conversations it to do them the right way. It's not nagging or harassing someone about why they didn't do it, it's about helping them gain clarity so they can take massive action. Here are the six questions you should be asking (it doesn't have to be this formal or in this order, this is just a guide):
1. What was your goal?
2. How did you do?
3. How do you feel about that?
4. What is your new goal as a result of how you did?
5. Is there anything that might keep you from doing that?
6. If you needed training or support to do that, what might that be?
By building your accountability conversations like this, you let the person self-discover, reflect and OWN it so they can take action.
Real friends hold each other accountable. They don't let each other get away with BS excuses.
Let me know... Who do you have to hold you accountable?