Weddings can be a drag, especially if you're single, as the joy of being in a relationship is flaunted so intensely in front of you. It's hard to not think of your own desire for the same thing.
The only thing that has helped me with this feeling is working on my dating skills. It didn't make those pangs in the heart disappear, but I felt better knowing that I wasn't just sitting by idle, feeling sorry for myself. I was taking control of my destiny, and building the skills I would need, for when the right girl crossed my path. ~
One of those critical skills is being social. Dates, girlfriends, and even friends have come more easily into my life when I've pushed myself, to make the most of social opportunities. Weddings are a great place to meet people you otherwise wouldn't, so next time you're invited to one, suit/dress up and stretch your comfort zone with these 2 tips. ~
1. You can talk to LITERALLY anyone at a wedding, because you have the ultimate opener: "so how do you know the bride and groom?" There are definitely cliques at weddings, and not everyone will be interested in chatting with you, but everyone will at least answer this question. Paired with a "hey, you seem friendly" before it, this question is as close to a sure thing as you'll get.
2. Most people know about #1, and will ask you the same in return. I used to just answer with the facts, which is blowing a golden opportunity to connect. You show your personality with the answer you give, and facts are boring. I recommend making up a ridiculous answer, and then sharing the facts afterwards. At this wedding, I answered with "I ran over the bride's foot, and then we became friends" which always gets a chuckle, and immediately conveys that I'm comfortable with my wheelchair. ~
Thank you Shama, and your family, for being one of the first to welcome me to Seattle, and for being so loving to me and my family since then. Congratulations to you & Shafiq on your wedding, and thanks for seating me with these awesome people. Also, thanks for the non-cliché wedding speeches from your friends and family (Karla killed it).