I've been doing 3 YouTube videos a day, answering questions from guys on Reddit, and this reply really gave me pause.
I love being a dating coach, but I hate being a "dating coach" because it comes with implications, and questions like "so you just help guys get laid?" I've admittedly been shy about discussing sex. I've avoided talking about it too much. Because we're not supposed to. Because it's bad. Because it's taboo. Because my impressionable little cousins' friends are showing them everything I post.
Yet the reality is, if you haven't had sex by some point, you feel that something is wrong with you. And that causes people to have their first sexual experience with someone they don't care about. Like I did. Just to get it "over with." But it's not just "over with" like that. You always remember your first. I remember going home and crying, alone, because I felt so hollow, so ashamed, and so afraid, because I knew nothing of her sexual history. I used protection and thankfully tested clean, but I wondered why I would take that kind of risk with someone I barely knew, and possibly impact a future relationship with someone I did care for.
So yes, I do help guys get laid, but not just to lose their virginity. And not just for the physical satisfaction. But as part of deeply connecting with women. Because guys might act like they just want more notches on the belt, but deep down, we just want to share that connection with someone. We want that girlfriend to introduce to our parents, and to take to work parties, and to color coordinate with at family weddings.
And I encourage them to get tested, and to share results with their partners before becoming intimate. Even if they're virgins, because it's just a good habit.
So let's talk about sex, and how it can be a wonderful, loving, and giving act when you both cherish each other - and how that's the only kind of sex worth having.