To be "Self-Less" is a trap. We live in a society that profits from us being self-less. A society that profits on our insecurities, self-hate, mental, emotional and physical Imbalances.
We are here to know the Self, to strengthen, empower and master the Self, not to resign it become Self-Less.
We are told that in order to be companionate, kind, loving we must be Self-Less. That's a lie. The Self isn't ego, the Self is the soul, the spirit. Why should you resign your soul in order to accommodate another? You don't have to set your Self on fire in order to keep others warm.
Society wants us to be Self-Less, even most people around whom we call friends and family would rather we become Self-Less because by being Self-Less we can be guilted, manipulated, shamed and lied to. By being Self-Less we become puppets, doormats, push overs. Being Self-Less means you have no sense of Self, no Self-Love, no Self-Respect, no Self-Awareness.
Self-Less is a form of submission, it leads to depression, anxiety, low Self-Esteem, Self-Loathe, insecurities, lack of direction, lack of motivation, lack of Self purpose...
The greatest leaders in history, those we look up to had a strong Self. Because it is only from the Self that we are to move forward, and lead. When you have a strong Self you always know where you are and where you are headed. Self leads to purpose. Self is the only motivation we need to accomplish anything. Self is all we need to lead with.
Your Self is all you've got, so why would you compromise that for anything or anyone one? Without Self we are just empty vessels, zombies, puppets to society.
Next time someone suggests you should be "self-less" hit them with some education on the Self, and if they try to guilt you or shame you, then that just proved my point.